Keeping Christ in Christmas

I have never bought insurance from Al Boenker but Babe’s Chicken is one of our favorite restaurants.  What do these two DFW businesses have in common?  They both have invested money to use media to wish folks at Merry Christmas.  Al Boenker’s usual 1-800-Thanks Al pitch line on television has been replaced by “Jesus is the reason for the season.  In the case of Babe’s Chicken, their billboards around the DFW community proclaim the same message.  No generic “Happy Holidays.”  Al Boenker Insurance and Babe’s Chicken house want the focus to be on the Christ Child.

The Vinyard family, who own Babe’s, and Al Boenker provide me with a glimmer of hope.  It is easy to feel like Christmas is becoming more secular every year, with less and less emphasis on the “Christ” in Christmas.  Unfortunately Christians, and even the church itself, can contribute to the movement.  I recently attend the “Christmas” spectacular at one of the area’s biggest mega-churches.  There were probably 5,000 plus in attendance the performance, which was one of over a dozen the church puts on.  This year, in addition to the soaring angels and live camels, there was flying sleigh and Rudolph.  While the second half of the program told the real Christmas story, the opening section featured a tour of North Pole complete with dancing snowmen and Santa.  I am not opposed to Santa Claus and Frosty the Snowman, but I think the church needs to be careful to keep the secular out of Christmas, keeping the focus on the Babe in the manger.

The above comments come in light of a new report from Pew Research that confirms what I already knew; fewer Americans celebrate Christmas as religious holiday.  According to their research, 55% of U.S. adults say they celebrate Christmas as a religious holiday, including 46% who see it as more of a religious holiday than a cultural holiday.  That is down from 59% in 2013, including 51% who saw Christmas as more religious than cultural. 

The responsibility for keeping Christ in Christmas falls on our shoulders. It starts with the traditions we keep as a family and the stories we tell our children and grandchildren.  While courts debates whether it is appropriate for a manger scene to be exhibited in a public place, the Christ Child should be under our Christmas tree and displayed in our yards.  The message of hope and peace that the Christ Child brings must be ingrained in our conversation and all our activities during this sacred time.  Jesus must be the reason we celebrate the season.

The End of the Homogeneous Church

My first assignment out of college was to be director of youth ministry at Trinity Lutheran Church in Cape Girardeau, Missouri.  Cape Girardeau is located just south of Perry County where the Lutheran Church Missouri Synod traces its roots.  To say that Lutheran tradition ran deep in that area would be an understatement.  It was only months prior to our arrival that Trinity had discontinued having at least one service every Sunday in German.  Rumor has that one older member had questioned the wisdom of the decision by asking in German, “How will God understand us if we are not speaking German?” Like most mainline denominations the LCMS has ethnic roots in addition to the theological ones. 

The reality in today’s world is homogeneous worship communities like the ones we probably grew up with are out of step with our diverse culture.  To expect the people who walk in the door to be like us and share our ethnic and denominational heritage is not realistic.  Thom Rainer, President of Lifeway Resources, recently noted, “Gen Z will not have a majority racial or ethnic group. Those born from 2001 to today are growing up in a generation that has no majority group. For the first time in American history, whites will be a minority. That is the real world. Our churches need to reflect that real world.”

The reality is the traditional church where everyone shares a similar ethnic, as well as religious background, will soon be a thing of the past.  Homogeneous worship communities are out of step in our diverse and changing world.  As a result it can be a challenging time for those of us who grew up enjoying the fellowship and traditions of those who are like us.  What is the long-term future of your church is membership and worship attendance continues to decline?

Jesus” great commission to “Make disciples of all nations” (Matthew 28:19-20) calls us to share the Good News of Jesus with people of all cultures and ethnicity.  In the past that required us to travel to other continents.  In today's the world they have come to us.  We are surrounded by individuals who represent different cultures and ethnic groups.  We are called to be Jesus to those people, and to welcome them into our worship communities.

Christmas is Coming and so are the Millennials

Christmas is coming and so are the Millennials.  There is something about celebrating Christmas with family and friends.  Part of that tradition is being in church on Christmas Eve.  The singing of Silent Night by candlelight still touches my heart strings.  Millennials also cherish singing the traditional Christmas carols.  As pastors and worship leaders are putting together the final arrangements for Christmas Eve services there are some things to keep in mind. 

When it comes to Millennials and Christmas Eve, it is not as much about a long-term relationship as it is reminding them of their spiritual roots.  Most Millennials have established their own lives, often away from home.  Some might even have made choices that they know not only run counter to mom and dad’s expectations, but contradict what they were taught in Sunday school.  As a result they probably are not looking for a long-term relationship with a church.  What they are looking for is unconditional love and acceptance.

Millennials also want to hear the Christmas Gospel from Luke 2.  No matter how many times the story is told, it never grows old.  Keep the service short, preferably forty-five minutes are less.  Allow plenty of time for people to hang around and visit after the service.  If you have multiple services, allow as much time between services as you do for the services themselves.  Christmas Eve should also be an “all hands on deck” event for a church staff.  It is especially important for education and youth ministry people to be visible and ready to welcome back college students and young adults.

It is also important for parents and grandparents alike is to not use holiday gatherings as an opportunity to preach or express displeasure over decisions that have been made in the past.  When Jesus gathered as a meal with people He prayed, broke bread and celebrated the fellowship.  Jesus also was well aware of the baggage each person brought to the table.  In that situation, He just loved them and appreciated their presence.  That needs to be our attitude as we welcome back young and old alike for the holidays.  It also needs to be our mindset as we gather with family and friends as well.  

In This World You Will Have Trouble...

Like the rest of the world, I was deeply grieved when I heard of the tragic church shootings in Sutherland Springs, Texas.  Unfortunately, I cannot say that I was shocked.  Mass shootings are happening way too frequently, and regrettably church communities often the target.  I was heartened to hear the strong words of hope, and even grace, spoken by the survivors and the entire community of Sutherland Springs.  I recalled the response of the Amish Community in Pennsylvania when a gunman entered a school and mercilessly murders young girls.  They too reacted with grace and forgiveness, even reaching out to the family of the shooter. 

As always, I turned to the scripture in an attempt to keep things in perspective. A couple of things immediately came to mind.

Satan will be active on this side of eternity.  The earth is his playground.  Revelation 12:7-9 provides the account.  Jesus' early followers were well aware of this.  Peter even warns, “Be self-controlled and alert.  Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:9)

The devil will often attack those who are most faithful.  The story of Job is the ultimate example.   Yet, the midst of unimaginable tragedy Job could proclaim, “I know that my Redeemer lives, and I too in my flesh will see him.”  (Job 19:25-27)  Like Job, we too should “long to see Him.”

Jesus told his followers, and that includes us, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart, I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)  We are to live each day as conquerors  because we have the ultimate "Conquer" as our leader. 

We must be living, breathing examples of hope and grace in a very troubled world.  We cannot allow ourselves to live in fear.   While we must be prepared for such attacks, we cannot allow fear to control our lives.  Rather, we must live each day joyfully and confidently.  The world, especially the young folks around us, is watching.

Taking Anxiety Among Students Seriously

Anxiety and depression is a growing issue among high school and college students. I recently read the results of an annual survey of students.   The study by the American College Health Association found a significant increase in the number of undergraduate students reporting “overwhelming anxiety” within the last year.  The numbers grew from 50% in 2011 to 62% in 2016.  As a point of comparison, in 1985 only 18% percent indicated they had experienced “overwhelming anxiety.”  It is not just college students who are experiencing the pressure.  Depression and anxiety is common among high school and middle students as well.

Anxiety has always been a risk as young people develop.  It happens as they experience academic and social issues, but there are certain factors that have caused the increase.

The pressure to be successful in the classroom: An increasing number of high school students are taking advance placement (AP) classes that require more intense study.  It is important to remember that AP courses are not for everyone.  Most colleges are looking well rounded students, rather than those who will only be successful in the classroom.

Social media: In the past conflicts and personal issues were usually kept private with only a small circle of friends and family aware of what was happening.  With social media those matters might be out there for the whole world to view.

Over-scheduling: Many students are juggling a demanding academic load with extra-curricular activities like music, drama and sports.  Ten to twelve hour school days are not uncommon among active students.  That lives little time for relaxing and personal time. 

Lack of Sleep: Experts note that a typical teen should get nine hours of sleep each night.  A typical teen often functions on between seven hours and eight hours sleep on school nights.  Less sleep not only hinders performance but affects their mood.

Parents and other who relate to teens and young adults need to be pro-active in helping students deal with the pressure.  Some ways to do that are:

Being aware of mood and behavioral changes and addressing them. 

Be available to listen on their schedule.  When a teen or young adult wants to talk it is important to seize that moment, even if it does not fit our schedule.

Emphasize confession and absolution: Most teens are aware of their shortcomings and brokenness.  We need to help them focus on their Baptism and the daily renewal that is available to those who view themselves as God’s child.

Help them understand the importance of mediation: Provide them with the resource to rest in God’s presence during the few quiet moments that they have during the day.

Perhaps the most effective way to address the issue is to model healthy living ourselves.  Mediation, Bible study and prayer should be a part of our daily schedule.  We also need to take time for recreation.  We also need to be individuals who are quick to forgive and practice grace. 

Is Following Your Passion Always Good Career Advice?

“Follow your passion.”  How often have we heard that advice directed to a young person who is about to graduate from high school?  The premise is that if your find something you are excited about, then studying becomes easier.  While on the surface that might seem logical, it is not always practical.  The fields of veterinary medicine or marine biology are good examples.  Students who have pets and enjoy being around animals might see a career working with them in their future.  The reality is getting into veterinary school is difficult and there is not a huge demand for marine biologists. 

During my years as a high school counselor I sent some of my classroom time teaching a class called Careers.  The class was required for juniors during their first semester.  The curriculum took students through the process of exploring career fields, identifying potential college majors, and exploring possible college options.  In addition we looked at what life in college was going to be like and even how to plan for the future financially. 

In looking at career options I always told my students, “If you find any career that reaches the needs of older adults you will almost always have a job.”  While that might include the medical field, it also included jobs in the leisure and hospitality industries.  Obviously, there are a growing number of baby boomers who are retiring.  Many of them have discretionary income to spend on travel and leisure activities.   As we age our health also requires more attention.  That not only means a need for more doctors and nurses, but for physical therapist and nutritionist. 

I recently read an article on the advice that adults are giving today’s high school students.  Not surprisingly, many folks are encouraging teens to pursue careers in science and technology, but health care also made the list.  While young adults who are just starting their careers were the ones who most often said, “Pursue your passion,” it was those who had the experience who gave the best advice. 

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When it comes to the teens in your life, make sure they hear your story but also make sure you are guiding them into a career where the will not only be successful, happy, but marketable.

Grand Parenting 104

We have four grandsons and each one is unique.  The youngest is Daniel Paul Seale.  He is our daughter and son-in-law’s first born.  It had been a few years since we had a baby around, but I quickly remembered my role as grandpa.  We are blessed to have all our grandkids relatively close by and twice blessed to have Daniel with us one day a week.  I am the one who sings silly songs and takes him on long walks.  At almost fifteen month, he also wants to be my helper when I am working in the yard.  He learned quickly where the hose is kept and knows how to turn the faucet on.  When he gets outside the first thing he does is pick up the watering can and head for the hose. 

Daniel is different from our other grandsons, however.  He is definitely going to be a digital native.  Put him in the family room and the first thing he does is look for the TV remote.  We thought he could satisfy him by giving him an old remote, minus the batteries.  He excitedly took it and went over to the TV and started pushing buttons.  When nothing happened the device was quickly dis-guarded.  The boy knows the difference.  It is the same thing with my iPhone.  I gave him my old phone, but when it didn’t light up when he pushed the button he had no use for it.  I do not recall our older grandsons even knowing what a remote or mobile device was when they were his age.

Such is the world today. Today’s kids are born into a world where technology is a way of life.  Our oldest grandson, Andrew, is fourteen and has his own cell phone.  His brothers have their own iPads.  When they come to stay overnight they bring the devices along and stay in touch with mom and dad and their siblings via facetime.  Yes, they do play games on those mobile devices but Peter and Amy have established limits and they live by those even when their parents are out of sight.

There are some parallels with Daniel, however.  He will sit and look at books with you, and when he is tired he wants to be cuddled.  Meals and snack time are always entertaining and yes he does need to have his diaper changed regularly.  There is another big similarity.  Daniel longs for security.   When he is scared he cries and wants to be held.  That’s okay, because it is a scary world that he and I live in.  These days I want to curl up in the arms of my Heavenly Father.  When I first heard of the mass shooting in Las Vegas my response was to long for Jesus presence in my life and in the lives of those directly affected. 

The most important role that I have as grandfather is to make sure Daniel is not just aware of the security and hope we possess in Jesus but to see it acted out in a real way.  In addition to the biblical stories, he needs to hear my faith story.  God has brought me through the tough time, just like he will deliver him from those times as well.

Do College Students Understand the First Amendment?

College campuses have a reputation for being fertile ground for discussion and debate when it comes to issues of the day.  Public universities in particular are viewed as being a place where those with alternative views and perspectives cannot only have a voice but find others who share their perspectives.  As a result a university community might not only have a Young Republican and Young Democrat organizations but clubs representing extreme perspectives like Socialism and Communism.  We expect the same kind of atmosphere today.  After all the current generation of college students grew up have a reputation of being tolerant and open-minded. 

A recent survey of college students seems to indicate the exact opposite might be true.  The study was done by John Villasenor, a Brookings Institution senior fellow and University of California at Los Angeles professor.  It was motivated by concerns about the “narrowing window of permissible topics” for discussion on campuses.  John Villasenor conducted a nationwide survey of 1,500 undergraduate students at four-year colleges.

The Back Lives Matter movement began as a response to what many saw as the intentional targeting of Blacks by police officers.  It was to be expected that there would be protest and rallies on college campuses.  It was a cause many young people identified with.  The conflict arose when individuals with the opposite perspective wanted to express their views on campus.  Many universities cancelled the appearance of White Supremacist on their campuses because they feared a violent response.  If John Villasenor’s study is correct they had a reason to be concerned.  One in five of the college students polled responded that it was “acceptable to use violence to disrupt a controversial speaker.  Over half of those polled felt it was acceptable “shout over controversial speakers so they can’t be heard.”

Today’s young people might have a reputation for being tolerant and desiring to be politically correct but that open-mindedness only goes so far.  When pushed, many college students will strike back.  In such situation using violence is permissible. And we are left to ask, “Where did this come from.”  Is it possible this is a learned behavior?  Could we, as older adults, encouraged this behavior by our response to view points and perspectives that run counter to our traditions or value systems? 

As a society I believe we all need to listen more and talk less.  We also need to respect those who hold different beliefs, perspectives and value systems.  We do not need to agree with someone to love them and respect them.  In the process they might begin to see Jesus in us.  Remember Jesus’ words to Nicodemus, “The Son of Man came not to condemn the world but that the world might be saved through him.”  (John 3:17)   Perhaps we need to condemn less and practice grace more.

Religious or Spiritual?

Many years ago I led numerous Bible studies using the book How to be a Christian without Being Religious by Fritz Ridenhour.  The book was a survey of Paul’s Epistle to the Romans in an insightful, yet easy to comprehend manner.  Fritz Ridenour’s premise was obvious.  There is a big difference between giving the outward signs of being religious, going to church and wearing a cross, and walking the path of discipleship. The Gospel should not only be applied to our lives, but should spread throughout our lives and impact all our relationships.

I thought of Fritz Ridenour’s book as I read a new report from Pew Research.  The debate between being “religious” and “spiritual” continues to this day.  In the current context, religious people would include practicing Christians who attend church and carry their Bibles.  Spiritual individuals believe in a “supreme being” and might even pray but have little use for organized religion.   According to the latest data from Pew Research, a growing number of American fall into the latter category.  It is easy to see this as a disturbing trend.  It is shown in the reality that mainline denominations are losing members and one church after another faces the challenge of continuing its ministry as attendance declines. 

From my perspective this is more of a challenge, than it is a tragedy.  The challenge lies in being Jesus’ disciples in a broken and lost world.  The fact that a good percentage of the people we meet each day consider themselves spiritual needs to seen as a positive.  The challenge comes in putting aside our “religious” expectations and focusing on the Gospel.  Today’s teens and young adults long for authenticity.  Religious traditions and practices mean little to them unless they are applied to daily life.

That is the challenge.  How do we pass the torch of faith and values in a way that is going to impact the lives of the next generation?  It will not happen if we only have fellowship with our “church” friends.  It means stepping out of our comfort zone into the world of contemporary culture.  It requires us being Jesus in a broken world. 

Reformation 500: Where Have We Gone Wrong

Where have we gone wrong?  It was a question I was moved to ask as I read the recent report from Pew Research.  As we get ready to celebrate the 500^th Anniversary of the Protestant Reformation staff at Pew Research polled American to gain an insight into how people view the Reformation and the biblical perspective Martin Luther and other reformers espoused.   Obviously we have not gotten the word out effectively.  According to the poll only 17% of mainline Protestants believe that Jesus is the only way to salvation.  Even more shocking is the 53% associate good works with salvation.  While it is difficult to know what portion of those surveyed are Lutheran, it is still shocking to me that so many who view the Reformation as a historically significant event miss the whole point.

My experience tells me that even some “good Lutherans” get confused.  I remember my experience years ago with the Kennedy evangelism approach.   People I spoke with were quick to respond “yes” when asked about their hope for eternal life.  When it came to the question of “how” their response most often was, “I have tried to lead a good life.”  Many of those interviewed had grown up in the Lutheran Church but still were clinging to the idea that “I must have to do something.”

When writing curriculum, whether it was for a Bible class, Sunday school or confirmation, I was taught to make sure the Gospel was clearly presented in each lesson.  When I am asked to preach, I always make sure that the story of salvation is stated clearly.  You never know when someone might be hearing it for the first time.  In discussing faith with others I always err on the side of caution when talking about grace and God’s unconditional love for us.

I know a lot of Lutheran communities are planning special service to celebrate the 500 Anniversary of the Reformation.  I guess that is okay, but I think the best way we can celebrate is by being Gospel-Centered in our dealings with people, especially the lost and those who might be different from us.  

That Dreaded Jury Duty?

Maybe I am weird, but I actually don’t mind being called for jury duty.  I see it as my duty, and usually come home with some interesting stories to tell.  Aside from shopping at Walmart (something I do not enjoy), I can think of few places where I can see such a cross-section of society.  I know I am going to meet some interesting people while waiting to be called, and in those long waits in the hallway.  

After all the years of rejection, I actually got to serve on a jury a few years ago.  It was a memorable experience, and great study of group dynamics.  It took us one day to reach a verdict and then three days of deliberation trying to determine the sentence.  There might even be a book based on the case since one of the members of the jury was a retired police detective who now writes crime novels.  In spite of the tension and differences of opinion we left with a sense of accomplishment.  

I thought of all this yesterday when I read a new report from Pew Research.  According to a recent poll, 67% of Americans still equate jury duty with something you do as a civic duty.  Older adults (65+) are most likely (78%), while only 50% of young adults (18-29) held that opinion.  Around 70% of baby boomers and members of generation X view jury duty as a civic responsibility. It is estimated that only about 15% of Americans actually receive a jury summons each year, and only about 5% of us actually get to serve on a jury.

So if most of us see it as sign of good being a good citizen, why all the moaning and groaning when we receive that jury summons?  What message are we sending when we complain publicly about being called to serve?  That is especially the case when the audience might include children, teens and young adults.  I might add that our comments about paying taxes and obeying the traffic laws might also send the wrong message.  One concern about millennials and generation Z (those born since 2000) is that they do not have of sense of national pride as older adults.  It is not enough to just teach American history, we need to be underscoring the responsibilities that go with it.  Even out casual comments might sent the wrong message.

With Teens it has to be Personal

“How many kids showed up?”  It was a question I knew I would be asked after every event during my years in youth ministry.  Sometimes it was the senior pastor on Monday morning, other times it was my own family when I got home.  Youth ministry is not unique on that account.  We tend to evaluate a church based on the average Sunday attendance, but, lots of folks in the sitting in the pew does not always guarantee they are growing spiritually.  We can plan an event that attracts a flock of teens but if the experience does nothing to further their relationship with Christ it is hard to call it youth ministry.

It took me a long time to learn the lesson; high numbers do not mean success.  It is all about relationships; my relationship with the people and ultimately their relationship with Jesus.  That has become even more so in youth ministry today.  Contemporary teens are over-programed and frequently stressed.   Their lives can become so full that they have little time for regular youth activities church.  By the time they are juniors and seniors we might see very little of them, other than Sunday morning.  As a result the participation numbers are down.  We have fewer kids and less time to work with those that we do have.  Still the door is open even for a relationship with kids who do not attend youth activities.   

Youth ministry has always been about relationships.   Probably the only difference is that now relationships are often not face to face.  Social media and the ability to text and facetime make it possible for kids to contact us 24/7.  All of this makes me a little envious.  In the days of landlines and postcards, daily contact with the kids in the youth group was near impossible.  If I got a call from a teen in the middle of the day it was probably not a good things; it either meant there was an emergency or they were in trouble.  Now kids can text their youth minister just to tell them “Hi” or to let them know they “Aced” their biology exam. 

Come to think of it, we all should look for opportunities to stay in touch with teens this way.  I never thought the day would come when I would get text messages from my grandson, Andrew, but that day is here.  What an opportunity!  But our communication with teens and young adults should not be limited to our grandchildren.  If there are young people in our lives, we need to show them we care.  Part of that comes from connecting on social media and letting them know they can contact us.  Greeting them at church and showing an interest in their lives and interest is a great way.  Showing up at their sporting events, concerts and other activities is another.  

It should especially be the case for those involved in ministry.  Every student should have their youth minister, DCE or one of the volunteer leaders on their contact list on their mobile devices.  It starts already in confirmation class.  Do you have a question or concern?  Text me.  Facing a tough decision and need someone to talk to, let me know.   

How many kids showed up?  No, how many kids have you had contact with this week? That should be the way we evaluate our ministry to teens.

Honestly, Doubt is a Reality

One thing I appreciate about most millennials is their honesty.  Once they feel comfortable with you, they will tell you exactly how they feel about an issue. Unfortunately, that is often not the case with many adults.  Granted there are some people who are opinionated.  Those folks are quick to get on their soapboxes concerning issues they are passionate about. Regrettably, that is not the case with many adults.  Most of us are satisfied with surface conversations, talking about the weather or our favorite sports team.  Think about it.  When was the last time you had a deep, heart to heart, conversation with a friend.

A recent report from The Barna Group indicates that doubt and fear about their faith is more prevalent among adult Christians than we might think.  Almost two-thirds of the adults polled for the study indicates that they had experienced doubt concerning their faith and even the existence of God.  If that is indeed the case, there are a lot of us who are hiding our deepest thoughts and concerns.  We do not talk about those uncertainties because we do not want people to think less of us.  As a result we play the religious game.  We put on a facade that we are confident and sure of our faith, when in reality fears and doubt are buried within us. 

If we can just open the door to a discussion about those doubts and fears we might not just create an atmosphere of honesty but an environment where millennials would feel welcome.  It is time for us to change the image that young people have of the church.  God’s desire is not for a worship community that focuses on spirituality but on brokenness.  That is why confession and absolution are such an important element when we gather as a community of faith.  God loves us, even amidst our doubts and fears. 

Detroit 67: A Personal Reflection

Last weekend marked the fiftieth anniversary of the Detroit Riots.  I grew up in the Motor City and happened to be home for a friend’s wedding that weekend.  My family had spent the Sunday at a cottage on Lake Huron.  My plan was to have my dad drive me to the bus station downtown so I could catch the “red eye” back to Chicago where I was working that summer.  As we got in the car to drive back to Detroit we got our first radio reports about the unrest.  I convinced my dad to at least try to make the drive downtown but we were turned back by policeman before we had driven two miles. 

We did make the trip before dawn the following morning.  The streets were deserted as we drove down Jefferson Avenue.   We passed block after block of stores that had been looted.  Some buildings were on fire but there was not a fireman in sight.  I did make it to the bus station, where I was informed I would need to pay an extra $5.00 for insurance because of the situation.  The streets were deserted and smoke hung in the air as we weaved through downtown.  As I headed east on I-94, a convoy of National Guard vehicles drove past heading in the opposite direction.  I immediately sensed that the beautiful town of childhood would never be the same.

The neighborhood I grew up in changed over the next few years.  The shops and homes were never touched by civil disturbances, but fear drove people to the suburbs.  One by one the shops on Warren Ave. closed and soon the community was a shadow of its former self.  While most of our neighbors sold their homes and joined the exodus, my parents stayed.  They lived in the same house for another thirty-seven years until declining health forced them to move to a senior community.  They stayed because my dad had the attitude that it was his neighborhood and he would learn to get along with whoever chose to live there.  On summer evenings when I returned home, I remember him sitting on the porch and greeting all who would pass by.

This past Sunday, the Detroit newspapers published a special edition reflecting on the riots. A major movie has been released that focuses on one of the stories from the riots.  I read the news articles but think I will pass on the film.  If you want insights into the Detroit of the Sixties and the circumstances that led to the disturbances I would recommend the book Once in a Great City, by David Maraniss. 

Personally, I would rather reflect on the lessons I wish we had learned from the uprising.  Economic classes are an unfortunate reality.  Ethic and racial diversity are also a part of our American landscape.  In my mind the solution comes in being sensitive to the needs of others, and learning to listen.  We can try to blame the police, or our civic leaders, but the change needs to happen in our neighborhoods and in the workplace.  Each one of us must take ownership of the problem. 

Messy Grace

I just finished reading the book Messy Grace by Caleb Kaltenbach.  Thanks to my friend Paul Short for recommending it to me.  Caleb Kaltenbach has a very unique perspective when it comes to the LGBT community and the church.  He was raised by his lesbian mother and her partner.  As such, he joined them in marching in gay pride parades and in the process experienced the hatred of some individuals in the name of Christianity.  During his high school years he became involved in a Christian community and ultimately became a pastor.  Today he is married with a family and is lead pastor at Discovery Church in Simi Valley, California.

In the book, Caleb Kaltenbach takes us on his spiritual journey.  He credits the love and grace he experienced through his Christian friends for his faith conversion.  In the process he not only came to know the love of Jesus, but God’s expectations in terms of our sexuality.  I found little to disagree with when it comes to his Biblical perspective on the LGBT issue.  There is little doubt that it runs counter to God’s plan for His creation.  Still we are called to minister to that community.  In the process, things can get messy; hence the title for the book.

I found one key statement that captures Caleb Kaltenbach’s perspective: People are not the enemy.  They are the mission.  It is a reality that we live in a different world where the culture has shifted.  Unfortunately, as Christians we meet people who are different from us and immediately perceive them as adversaries.  It might be that they are gay or perhaps come from a different spiritual perspective.  That runs contrary to the example that Jesus established.  He seemed to seek out those who were not only lost, but whose lifestyles might run counter to the religious community of that day.  Consider his relationship with Matthew, Zaccheus and the women at the well. 

Messy Grace is a must read for those of us who desire to make a difference in our changing culture.  If we hope to pass on the torch of faith we, need to stop seeing those who are different as adversaries.  

America: From a Millennial Perspective

As we prepare to celebrate this Fourth of July, the Barna Group has released a new report on what Americans believe makes our country great.  Participants were presented with a list of choices with the option of selecting two.  The top response was “the opportunity to be what you want to be” (24%).  The Constitution and freedom of the press/free speech with the next most popular responses at 21%.  We still value the freedom of religion (21%) and our democracy (21%).

There was big variance between generations when it came to the perception of what makes America great.  Baby boomers and Elders hold the Constitution and Bill of Rights in higher esteem (29% and 22% respectively) as opposed to Millennials (16% and 8%).  Freedom of religions was not nearly as important to Millennials (19%) as opposed to older adults (33%).  Millennials, more than any other generation, seem to value our country being a “melting pot society” (16%) while Baby Boomers and Elders hold that characteristic in lower esteem (3%).   

Based on my experience, I am not surprised at this information.  Young adults and teens both value the fact that they live in a country where they are free to be what God created them to be.  This includes how they use their skills and talents, as well as how they express themselves.  More than other generations, they want to celebrate our cultural and ethnic diversity.  Today’s young people also have a strong entrepreneurial spirit.  More than any other generation they want to capitalize on the opportunity live out the American dream. 

There are two things I have learned from Millennials.  It is okay to dream and strike out on your own.  Secondly, not to see the differences in people as an obstacle but rather as an opportunity. 

Cell Phone Reality Check

I got in trouble with my daughter a few weeks back.  We were out to dinner and my cell phone kept vibrating in my pocket.  It finally got the best of me so I checked a couple of times to see if I had a text or phone call.  Okay, I admit that I am tied to my mobile device.  I keep my calendar on it and use it to store a lot of information.  Since I work part-time for a chaplaincy service, it is the way my hospitals reach me in an emergency.  Yes,I also use it to get news and for social media.  I also know it is rude to use the phone during meal times… but sometimes curiosity gets the best of me. 

We tend to complain about teens and young adults and the way that they seemed to be tied to their mobile devices, but older adults might be just as bad.  A recent Pew Research poll indicates that 65% of American adults use social networking sites.  That is up 7% since Pew Research first started tracking media usage in 2005.  While use among teens and young adults has remained steady, the number of older adults using mobile devices for social media has climbed dramatically.  Currently, 35% of those 65 and older report using social media, compared to 2% in 2005.

I recently read a study that seems to indicate that teens still value face to face communication.  The research comes from YouGov.  It found that more than seven in ten teen mobile device users said they at least somewhat prefer to hanging out with friends to chatting online.  The reality is most teens still enjoy hanging out with their friends the traditional way.

Before we start criticizing teens and young adults for being tied to their mobile devices, take a look at our own habits.  Maybe we need to be better role models when it comes to our own use of our cell phones.

New Perspective on Summer Jobs

My first real job was delivering The Detroit Free Press during my high school years.  I had a morning route that required that I get up at 5:00 am.  I never got an allowance.  I earned my own spending money.  I also put some money in a savings account and gave my tithe to the church.  In addition I always had summer jobs.  My first work experience was cutting lawns for people in the neighborhood.  As I recall, I usually made somewhere in the area of two dollars for each lawn I cut.  During college I worked summers for the gas company in Detroit.  My dad was an accountant for the company and they had a program for the children of employees.  I worked during the summer in order to save up money to pay for incidental expenses during the school year. 

I recently read an article that leads me to believe that summer jobs for high school and even college students, are becoming a thing of the past.  For Baby Boomers and Generation X, the summer job was a rite of passage. Today's teenagers have other priorities. During July of last year 43% of 16- to 19-year-olds were either working or looking for a job. That's 10 points lower than in July 2006. In 1988 and 1989, the July labor force participation rate for teenagers nearly hit 70 percent. 

According to Bloomberg Business, there are a variety of reasons today’s students are not working.  In some cases they're being crowded out of the workforce by older Americans, now working past 65 at the highest rates in more than 50 years. Immigrants are competing with teens for jobs; a 2012 study found that less educated immigrants affected employment for U.S. native-born teenagers far more than for native-born adults. In other cases, parents are encouraging their kids to volunteer and sign up for extracurricular activities instead of working.  The theory is it will impress college admission counselors. College-bound teens aren't looking for work because the money doesn't go as far as it used to.

There is another reason many high school and college students are not seeking jobs.  Many of them are seeking internships where the emphasis is on gaining experience and building a network.  Even if the position does not pay, they still see the experience as being valuable.  There also is the added incentive to want to perform well.  The hope always is that it will pay off in the future.  Perhaps today’s students are a step ahead of where I was.  I worked so I had spending money.  Many of them are working to build a future.

Memorial Day

Jeffrey Green and Wesley Durbin were both members both members of the class of 2001 from Lutheran High School of Dallas.  Like most high school graduates they had dreams for the future.  In this case they shared a common goal to join the United States Marines.  As students they kind of blended in.  They were not great athletes, or outstanding students.  They were just good kids who wanted to serve their country.  They were the kind of low maintenance students so as the school counselor I had little contact with them.  They were proud to be Marines and often visited campus when they were home on leave.  They both lost their lives as during while on duty in the Middle East. 

I think of Jeffrey and Wesley every year on Memorial Day.  Like any young person who joins the military, they just desired to serve their country.  I am sure they knew the risks, were willing to go into harm’s way just the same.  That is usually the case with those who serve their country in times of combat.  The freedom of others is more important than their own welfare.

If there is a lesson to be learned it is that we need to value the time we have with those we minister to.  We never know when God will call them home.  Make sure they know Jesus and experience His love and grace.  In the case of Jeffrey and Wesley, I am confident they carried the torch of faith to their graves.  We live in a great country.  I am proud to say I mentored two young men who died defending it.

The Future of Youth Ministry

My youth ministry career began in 1969.  I had graduated from Concordia Teachers College in River Forest, Illinois (Now Concordia Chicago) and my placement was Trinity Lutheran Church in Cape Girardeau, Missouri.  My wife was called as the second grade teacher and I was to serve at director of youth ministry.  At that point in time full-time youth ministers were rare.  There were only two of us serving Lutheran Churches in the whole state of Missouri and he was on the other side of state in Kansas City.  The only other person in the town of Cape Girardeau doing youth ministry was Charles Haley who served at the Baptist Church.  We became good friends, but had to travel to another town thirty miles away to meet.  We knew even being seen together would start a controversy.

Youth ministry was very different in those days.  No internet so I ordered resources from a catalog.  No social media so I sent out postcards and depend on a telephone tree to get the word out to the kids.  Youth ministry took place on Sunday.  We had Bible class in the morning and youth group at night.  If someone did not show up the kids all knew and reminded them of it the next time day at school.  We had a youth center and it was open on Wednesday and Saturday nights for the kids from church and community.  There was no need to reach out because kids gravitated to us.

I recently thought of all the changes that have taken place since then when I read an article on Churchleaders.com on the future of youth ministry.  One emerging trend is the movement toward missional communities.  It appears the days of kids gathering in the church youth room are numbered.  So is the Sunday morning youth Bible class and even the traditional youth night.  As church budget’s decline the ability to support a full-time DCE or youth pastor is become less of an option.  As a result churches are relying more on part-time workers and volunteers. 

The one thing that has not changed is the importance of relationships.  I had a close bond with the kids in that first youth group.  I was a listening ear and the one they turned to when they were hurting.  I also helped them deal with the tough issues.  Back in those days it was the Viet Nam war and drugs.  Today’s teens struggle with sexual identity and depression/suicide.  What the church still needs is more adults who will step up and mentor teens and young adults.  Youth ministry might be different but teens still need Jesus.   The call is for all of us to play that role.

What Drives You

I was a little disappointed when I read of a recent Harris Poll.  If the Harris people are correct we can check off another myth about millennials.  I had held a certain degree of hope that today’s young adults were not going to be as materialistic as their parents, especially when it came to personal transportation. Perhaps they were not going to be as dependent on the automobile as previous generation.  Word was millennials preferred public transportation and shared ride services.

It now appears that when it comes to what they drive, millennials might have a similar materialistic mindset as baby boomers.  That is one conclusion we can draw from the poll.  Even if they cannot afford to buy one right now, millennials seem to be dreaming of a Mercedes-Benz or Lexus in the future.  Seven of the top car brands among millennials are luxury brands.  That compares to five each among members of generation X and baby boomers.  Obviously, at this point in their live millennials are less likely than other generations to actually own a luxury car.  This poll was more about aspiration.  What car brand would you be drawn to if you had the money?  It was about image and status.

Other luxury brands like Audi and BMW also made the list.  Interestingly, Lincoln was the only American brand to make the list.  That can probably be credited to Lincoln’s advertising campaign featuring actor Matthew McConaughey.   While overall the Lincoln brands overall popularity was flat, it has increased among millennials.  While Tesla has a way to go before it can compete with the established brands, it also is popular brand among millennials.

Subaru was the most popular Non-Luxury Auto category. In fifth place this year, Subaru builds on its reputation as the brand on its SUV/Crossover roots.  It also continues its “Love” campaign. Volkswagen was the biggest loser in popularity among millennials after its emissions scandal.  Toyota was the other brand that made the list of top ten brands among millennials.

So, where are you going with this you might ask?  I want you to consider what you drive and the image it projects to the young people in your life.  Somehow we’ve been sold on the “I deserve to be comfortable when I drive” viewpoint.  It is not enough just to have dependable transportation.  We want something that provides us with an experience and also fits the image we want to project.

I enjoy going to the Auto Show every year and looking at the fancy cars.  I also know I cannot afford them.  What I need is a dependable transportation.  At this point in my life I also want something that I can get in and out of easily.  That is why I drive a seven year old Chrysler Sebring sedan with 140,000 miles on it.  It might be old and plain looking but that’s okay.  I would rather let my words and actions, than the car I drive, reflect who I am.  

So, what do you drive?  More importantly, what does that say about your priorties?

Don't Mention the Name... Be the Name

If you watch much television you have probably seen the new McDonalds commercial featuring comedian Mindy Kaling.  At first viewing you might not even know that it is a commercial for the hamburger chain.  The sponsor is never actually mentioned.  The only indication that it is a McDonald commercial are the colors used; she is wearing a yellow dress on a red background. The point of the ad is that there is a place where Coke taste better than anyplace else.  Viewer are told to google the statement “that place where Coke taste so good” to find the answer; McDonalds.

McDonalds’ sales have declined in recent years.  Starbucks has passed them in sales.  A big reason is millennials do not frequent their restaurants.  The new commercials are aimed at millennials.  The actor, best known for the television series, The Mindy Project, is popular among young adults.  Millennials also use google when looking for information.  While they probably are not going to actually respond to the prompt to type in the question, they are intrigued by an ad that acknowledges google.

I have to wonder how churches might use the same approach: “Where is the one place where you will be loved and accepted for who you are?”  “Where can you go to find hope and security?”  The days when we can put out a sign or billboard to attract people of our church is quickly fading.  Even sending out bulk mail announcements inviting people to our services is going to show little results.  Simply having a website and Facebook page is not going to attract millennials.

My point is that perhaps each of us has the potential to be a walking, breathing commercial for the church.  When we exhibit a sense of hope and security in a troubled world we are a living testimonial to Jesus.  When we show grace and unconditional love toward the people we meet, we are promoting our Savior.  Standing on the street corner or even around the coffee pot at the office and talking about Jesus is not going to be real effective.  Today’s teens and young adults need to meet Jesus through us when we speak his message without using words.

Teens Still Like a Good Story

Teenagers still like a good story.  During my youth ministry day I could always get the kids to focus when I told them a good story. It also helped when there was some humor involved.  A recent study of members of Generation Z, today’s current children and teens, seems to indicate they are not different.  The study was done by U.S.-based AdReaction explored their attitudes toward advertising formats.  Fifty-six (56%) of those polled said an ad must tell a good story.  That was the number three response to humor (72%) and good music (58%).  Surprisingly, have a celebrity involved in the ad was not all that important (26%).

How does this apply to the church and our message, you might ask?  To start with we have a great story to tell.  It is story of God’s love expressed in Jesus Christ and message of love and grace he lived.  During this season of Easter it is a story of hope and eternal life.  It is a message we must live out every day.  We live in a world where people long for hope.  When we live confidently and expectantly in the midst of turmoil and change, we are being Easter people.  When we look at death itself as nothing to fear, we are Resurrection People.  When are directing that message at teens and young adults we probably need to make sure we include some wholesome humor and good music as well. 

I believe is also means telling our personal stories of how Jesus has impacted our lives.  We all have faith stories to tell and in the right format those narratives need to be related.  Within our circle of family and friends there can be numerous opportunities, but what about relating to those we do not know?  I sincerely believe we can share that story with them as well.  The story must first be told through our actions.  When we are open and express love and concern for them.   That might mean listening to their story, and in the process they might ask to hear ours.

Holy Week Reflections

With all my years in ministry, I have many memories of Holy Week.  This morning one particular one came to mind.  The church I was serving had a tradition of having seven midday Good Friday services based on the last words of Christ.  For three hours, beginning at noon, the pastor and I took turns leading the twenty minutes services.  People, both members and those from the community, drifted through.

 

One year as I concluded the last service, a young man approached me smiling.  “I made it through,” he announced.  I suddenly realized that he had been present at every service that I had led.  His commitment was to be present for the full three hours.  I was somewhat familiar with the young man who was both a husband and father.  The pastor and I had prayed for him and his family.  He owned his own business and the long hours had taken a toll on his personal life.  Nice house, fancy car and a marriage that was on the brink of collapse.  He and his wife were casual members, showing up once or twice a month.  I suspected his commitment to attend all seven Good Friday services was an attempt to turn things around.  Unfortunately, the young man was like man Christians.  In a time of trouble and turmoil, he cried out to the Lord and wanted to renew his commitment.  In this case, the commitment was short-lived and in time his marriage failed and we lost track of him and his wife. 

Holy Week is a sacred time, as we contemplate the cross and the price Jesus paid for our sins.  On Easter we celebrate the Resurrection victory and the eternal life we have gained.  But the observance of Holy Week is not a panacea for what trouble us and our world.  That only comes through an ongoing relationship with Jesus Christ.  That is the message we must share with the world.  Every week should be a Holy Week, just as every day must be Holy Day.  Our ongoing relationship with Jesus is what should set us apart, in a good way I might add, from the rest of the world.  There should be no room for negativity and fear.  The cross is still sits on the hillside and the tomb is empty. 

Pass the Torch and celebrate Jesus with those you meet this week… especially with those millennials who might happen to stop by on Easter.

We All Want to be Fixers

We all want to be fixers.  If we have a problem around the house we analyze the situation and based on experience we develop a plan to fix it.  In certain situations we might even go online to search for a solution.  You can use Youtube to view instructions on almost anything.  At this point in my life I prefer another option.  I will call a professional to do the work for me.  It is usually worth the cost when I consider the time involved and the amount of ibuprofen it will take for me to recover.  With an older home, I have the plumber and electrician on speed dial.

Unfortunately we often want to want to treat people the same way we do home repair project.  We see the problem and immediately want to step in and help them fix it.  After all, we have lots of experience.  So when a friend or loved one is going through a difficult time we want to help them through it,  We offer our advice.  

It is the same thing with our kids.  When they have a problem or are going through a difficult time we want to step in a fix it.  I think it is important to know the difference being a manager and being a consultant.  Managers manage the affairs of others.  Consultants offer advice but only with certain conditions.  They always ask for permission before offering an opinion.  They then offer their insights and let the individual take the next step.  What the person does with the suggestion is their decision.  Also, consultants do not call up every other day and ask why they haven’t taken our wise counsel.

A couple of words of advice based on my experience based on my experience working with teen.  Giving advice breeds dependence.  The more we manage their life, the more they depend on us.  Secondly: who are they going to blame if the advice proves faulty.  In the long run we risk hurting a relationship by giving too much advice.

It can make life difficult and frustrating, especially if our kids are involved.  Ultimately we need to equip them to make the decisions and then set them free.  We can be consultants along the way, but ultimately they have to figure things out.  Along the way prayer helps.  We have to trust that God has them in the palm of His hand. 

What is the Big Deal About Truth?

It is a sad commentary on our culture that the word “truth” has become a hot topic.  From television news channels to major magazines, it seems as if everyone talking about truth.  Much of it was fueled by White House counselor Kellyanne Conway who introduced us to the term “alternative fact.”  She was explaining that a statement from White House Press Secretary Sean Spicer was not a lie.  A fact is a “fact.” There can be no such thing as an “alternative truth.”  Truth is reality in its truest form.  A truth is an indisputable fact, proposition or principle. A “lie” is the exact opposite, an “untruth".  A lie is a false statement made with the intent to deceive.  I am left to wonder how far we have fallen since George Washington made the statement, “I cannot tell a lie,” when asked if he did it. 

The search for truth, and its meaning, is nothing new.  In the midst of Jesus’ trial it is Pilate who inquired, “What is truth?”  Like many leaders today, he was in a dilemma.  Do I follow my conscience and do what is I know is right or listen to the demands of the world? It is ironic that Pilate posed the question to the individual who had defined himself as, “The way, the ‘truth’ and the life” (John 14:4).  Jesus promises to guide us into that “truth” by providing us with the Holy Spirit who will, “guide you into the truth” (John 16:13).  

In a world where we are constantly bombarded with a variety of messages it is more important than ever to look to the Holy Spirit to “guide us into the truth.”  More importantly, we are called to be people of “the Truth.” That is especially the case when we are surrounded by so many teens and young adults who like Pilate are asking “What is truth?”  It is our responsibility to let them see that there are two basic truth: The Law, “We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God,” (Romans 3:23) and the Gospel, “And we are justified by His grace that came through Christ Jesus (Romans 3:24).”  That is a reality that must be lived through our actions, otherwise our words are hallow.  

Redefining Sexuality

“So God created man in his image,

in the image of God he created him;

male and female he created them.”

(Genesis 1:27)

As a child of God I still believe the above is the way God created humanity.  There are men and there are women.  I am also aware that my perspective is viewed as “old fashion” and out of step by many in today’s world.  I try hard to accept that and not be intolerant.  I even have contact on regular basis with people who are gays and lesbians, some I even consider friends.  I really strive to love and accept people where they are at.  I sincerely believe that is what Jesus calls us to do.  I have grown comfortable with being uncomfortable, but now that comfort level is being challenged again.

The cover article in the most recent issue of Time Magazine focuses on how a new generation is changing the way we view genders.  Millennials seem to be at the forefront in the change. According to Time, “A growing number of young people are moving beyond the idea that we live in a world where sexuality and gender come in only two forms.”  You might think be thinking, sure there is gay, and lesbian and transgender, etc. but it is more complicated than that.  According to time article, Facebook now has sixty options for user’s gender.  That includes options like, queer, bisexual and non-binary.  If the article is correct, 20% of millennials identify as something other than strictly straight or cisgender (someone who identifies with the sex they were assigned at birth).  Now granted, the survey might be biased since it was done the LGBTQ advocacy organization GLAAD, but even if it is half that at 10%, we are dealing with a good segment of society.  According the same survey, 7% of baby boomers also claim a sexual orientation that is outside what I consider traditional.

As I tried to process this new information three thoughts come to mind.  First off: None of this changes who I am.  My belief is still that God created two distinct sexes, male and female.  I also believe marriage is the sacred estate involving one man and one woman.  God promises to bless such unions.  Secondly: The search for identity is nothing new for teens and young adults.  In the past the quest to discover “who I am” focused on personality, talents and self-image.  In our diverse culture where young people are exposed to so many different messages it is to be expected that some might to try to define their sexual identity as well.  The final reality is that teens and young adults often do not have the resources to always make wise choices.  Experts tell us that the brain is not fully developed until the mid-twenties.  As a result young people are not always able to process their feelings and emotions.  In light of that, it is easy to see how even their sexual identity might be called into question.  Part of that search for identity might mean incorporating what they have learned in church with what the world is saying. 

Where does all this leave us?  First off, I think we need to continue to model God’s plan in our own personal lives.  That means practicing our own sexuality in a wholesome and God-pleasing manner.  That includes the sanctity of marriage.  I believe it also challenges us to be available to listen to and mentor young people as they struggle with contemporary issues like their own sexual identity.  Don’t jump to conclusions and don’t preach.  Lastly, we need to continue to be people who practice grace.  It is a challenge to love people where they are at, but I think that is what Jesus calls us to do.  We are called to love others unconditionally, even if we do not agree with them, or the lifestyle they chose.

Facebook is Not Cool

I enjoy Facebook. When I last checked, I had over 1,250 “friends” on the social media site.  I have found it a great way to stay in touch with family out of state, network with friends and keep up with people who were part of my ministry at one time.  I have also found Facebook a great way to network with people who want to follow my ministry.  I have tried Twitter, and still have account but quite frankly have never gotten in to it.  It probably has something to do with having to limit myself to one hundred and forty-four characters.  I guess I am too wordy for that.

I recently read an article that caused me to reconsider my time on Facebook. Evidently Facebook is for “old people” and if I want to stay in touch with millennials my time would be better invested elsewhere.  It seems that Facebook is not cool.  While it is still the top social media site, many young adults are avoiding it.  While 70% of Americans access Facebook on a weekly basis, but only 36% of those users are ages 18-34.  While that is still a good number of young adults, it pales in comparison to other social media sites. 

For millennials, Instagram and Snapchat are where the action is.  Instagram is a distant second to Facebook in popularity with 32% of American using the service weekly, but almost half (46%) of those are millennials.  Snapchat is the fourth most popular behind Twitter with 25% of American accessing the service weekly, but over half of those (53%) are between the ages of 18-34.  By my calculations that means over 80% of millennials use those services. 

I guess I should not be surprised.  For one thing, young folks have avoided Facebook because so many “older adults,” like their parents, utilize the social media site.  I think a better reason is that Instagram and Snapchat allows them to communicate in a way that is more in their comfort zone.  Both rely more on visual images than words.  Instagram is not just about pictures.  Recently it has offered the option of video and even live streaming.  Snapchat introduced the concept of using your phone’s camera has a way to send messages.   An additional advantage is the fact that messages disappear as soon as they are read.  Sound to me like you can even say anything you want without being held accountable.

If there is a message here, it is that those who want to communicate with millennials need to learn to speak their language and communicate on their level.  As for me, I will continue to use Facebook, even if it makes me “uncool, but am going to have to check out this Instagram thing, at least.