A Christmas Prayer

Twenty years ago Concordia Publishing House published Real Men Pray: Prayer Thoughts for Husbands and Fathers, a book of devotional prayers that I had written. For this Christmas week I would like to share the prayer for Christmas.

This is Your day, Father.

Easter belongs to Jesus and

            His victory over death,

            but Christmas belongs to you.

I cannot imagine the struggle You must have

            gone through.

You allowed Your Son to become a

            human being and not only face

            the humiliation of a human life

            but even death itself.

And Jesus did it for the sake of all people,

            many of whom could not have cared less.

Sometimes this fact restrains my Christmas

            celebration.

All the world appears joyful as

            “Peace on earth” becomes the cliché

            of the day.

Everybody becomes religious as they

            celebrate the birth of a Child

            they might not know personally.

Father, others might struggle to understand

            my melancholy attitude.

As a father, I reflect on your cost.

I pray that You would make me a disciple

            worthy of the price You and Jesus paid.

As a sinner, I know I can never measure up.

And as a redeemed saint,

            I know I can never stop trying.

Father, thank you for Christmas and the new life

            You have given me.  

Amen.  

It Is Christmas Coming and so are the Millennials

I recall a conversation I had with a pastor teammate many years ago.  I was busy preparing for the various holiday activities; caroling with the youth group and the children’s Christmas service.  In addition to planning the worship services he was busy visiting the many shut-ins who were members of the church.  When I remarked how I was looking forward to the time away visiting family out of town on the day after Christmas he made a statement that surprised me.  He was staying in town because he anticipated some “issues” within the church family.  The puzzled look on my face prompted his response.  “When family members who don’t get along the rest of the year are forced to spend time together, all kinds of things can happen.” 

The reality is Christmas does carry with it certain expectations.  While we picture families gathered around the tree exchanging gifts and joining to sing carols at the piano, more often there is discord and strife.  Grudges and feelings that are buried the rest of the year can come bubbling up when we have to spend time with people for whom we have very conflicted feeling.  The good news of the Savior’s Birth can be drowned out by the realities of a sinful world. 

Unfortunately many families are facing similar circumstances when their millennial children return home for Christmas.   We look forward to spending time as a family but cannot put aside the fact that they might have made choices and decisions we do not agree with.  As a result we might have an agenda.  We see the opportunity to discuss the fact that they are not attending church or making moral decisions that run counter to our values. 

My prayer is that the peace of the Christ Child might come and dwell within your home this Christmas.  The sharing of that “Christmas Peace” must begin with you.  Jesus comes into the midst of our brokenness, including the fractured relationships that exist within families.  Our goal should be to let those we meet see the Christ Child in us.  Put aside the personal agendas and let the “peace of Christ” dwell in you richly.  Perhaps the time together in the serenity of Christmas will provide a platform for a time of reconciliation down the road. 

Grace Loncar Died

Grace Loncar took her own life.  I saw her obituary in the Dallas Morning News.  Teen suicides do not normally make the news but Grace’s family is well known in the community.  Her dad is prominent attorney Brian Loncar and her mother Sue the artistic director at the Contemporary Theater of Dallas.  Grace was sixteen and junior at the award winning Booker T. Washington School for the Performing Arts.  Grace has already made a name for herself on stage.  The obituary noted that she had battled depression since age eleven.  The disease finally won and now her family and friends grieve her loss.

I grieve too.  Depression and teen suicide are issues I am all too familiar with.  I dealt with depressed student when I was a high school counselor.  The threat of suicide was always present and I took it seriously. Suicide has always been high on the list as a cause of death among American teens.  It has always been tough being a teenager and the increasing pressure to succeed can be overwhelming.  Then there is the struggle for identity and the desire to conform to the counterfeit image the world establishes.  There was a time when these matters were confined to the home and school hallway but in the world of social media they can be out there for the whole world to see.

The topic of depression and teen suicide recently was a front page story on Time Magazine.  The article noted that percentage of teens who have had a major episode of depression in the last year has grown from 8% in 2006 to 12.5% in 2015: an alarming increase.  Girls are almost three times more likely than boys to suffer from depression.  Boy are, however, more likely to suffer from anxiety disorders.  An estimated 6.3 million teens are afflicted with some form of anxiety disorder.

The responsibility for responding to the epidemic of depression and suicide should not fall on parents and educators alone.  It is a community problem.  That should especially be the case within the family of believers.  It begins when we offer a smile and encouraging word to the teens and young adults who are around us.  It continues when we accept them for who they are, instead of asking them to conform to our standards.  It continues when we engage in conversation and learn to listen to them their concerns and opinions.  It also means watching for the warning signs of depression.  When we see something, say something. 

Next time you pass a teen or young adult who seems sad think of Grace Loncar.  I do not want to read another teen obituary.

The Millennial Church Dress Code

My Aunt Phyllis worked in the millinery department at the J. L. Hudson Department Store in downtown Detroit.  These days you are not going to find a millinery department in your local Kohls or Macys store, but in the fifties and sixties it was popular spot for female shoppers.  Before you reach for your dictionary; millinery is a traditional term used for covering for the head.  My aunt sold women’s hats.  Her clients were not just any shopper.  She sold expensive hats that we kept in a glass case.  Many of her regular customers were among the social elite in the city.  Hats were a big part of a woman’s wardrobe in those days.  One of the places a woman was even expected to wear a hat was to church.  Yes, there is even a reference in Paul’s First Epistle to the Corinthians; “But every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head…” (1 Corinthians 11:5)  To be fair the previous verse admonishes men to keep their heads covered as well.  As I recall it, the women took this to heart far more than the men.  All women wore hats to church.

How times have changed.  I did not see a single woman in church yesterday with her head covered, but then I did see any men wearing hats either.  I do not know too many people who are upset by this, but in some cases there is one fashion trend that does cause some people angst.   It is the idea of people wearing jeans to church.  To many older church goers who show up for worship wearing their “Sunday Best,” jeans are not acceptable.  

While I welcome their opinion, there is something inherently wrong when we judge people by what they wear.  What visiting millennials are going to return if they get “that look” when they show up for wearing jeans and tee shirts? The reality is that times and traditions do change.  When it comes to young people who want to engage in a worship community, I feel we should just be happy they want to be involved.  I recall God’s word to Samuel when he was looking to anoint the next king; “People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7b) 

A recent article by Thom Rainer of Lifeway Publishing offers some insights into the issue of millennials and Sunday dress.  In many cases their reason for coming to church in jeans has nothing with being comfortable.  It has everything to do with making their peers feel accepted.  What are the chances if they invite a friend to church  they will come if there is a preface, “Yes, and make sure you where a dress or suit and tie.”   Tattoos, tattered jeans, and piercings are part of the millennials lifestyle. While not all Christian millennials might follow the trend, they want their friends who do to feel welcome when they visit.  If the church is to survive over the next two decades it must seek to include millennials.  That means learning to accept their dress code as well.

  

Millennials and the Election: Hopefully a Lesson Learned

Unlike most Americans, I was not shocked at the results of the recent presidential election.  I could see it coming.  Part of it was the reality that Donald Trump was able to rally the support of the segment of the population that was frustrated with the status quo.  They were tired of the gridlock in Washington and seeing jobs leaving the country.  For me a bigger indication was the fact that so many young adults boycotted the election.  Early on they supported Barry Sanders but felt disenfranchised once he was out of the picture.  So, they decided to not vote on November 8.  As a result, Hillary Clinton lost key battleground states that had previously voted democrat.  Millennials, the segment of the population that elected Barack Obama, cost them the election this time around.  The irony is that now many of those who chose not to vote are protesting the results. 

It would be easy to say, “You got what you deserved,” but I do not see anything be accomplished in that.  In many ways we need to take the same approach as in training them when they were teens.   We can point fingers or we can use this as a teachable moment.  In working with parents of teens I used the terms punishment and discipline.  I believe the same principle applies here.  Punishment is to point out the results and say you deserve it.  Discipline is helping them, and in a sense us, to learn from the experience.  Stay calm.  Discuss the consequences, and move on.

In the meantime, Donald Trump will soon be our President.  He won the election, even Hillary Clinton acknowledged that.  Now he deserves our support and our prayers.  Nothing is accomplished if we complain about the results.  In the end God is still on the throne and all of us, including our leaders, will ultimately have to answer to him.  Until Jesus comes again, we need to continue to be his disciples in a broken world.  

Divided We Fall

If there is one thing that I have ascertained from the 2016 Presidential election it is that we are a divided nation.  Having grown up in the sixties I have experienced toxic divisiveness before, but in the late sixties there seemed to be two issues that divided us.  One was the racial issue.  Black people felt that they were not being treated equally and in the end that led to tension and some nasty riots.  I lived through one of those in Detroit.  The other concern that caused rising hostility was the war in Viet Nam.  While the later was a Black/White issue, the peace movement was very much a generational issue.  The young wanted peace, while older adults generally supported the war effort.

In our current situation there seems to me so much that divides us, to the point I do not know where to start.  The gun rights activists vs. those who view the 2^nd Amendment as out of date.  There are those who want to build a wall to keep foreigners out and those who want to grant amnesty to the illegal aliens who are already here.  The “Black Lives Matter” movement tells me the racial tensions are still present. On the other side are people who support the police believing that most crimes against Blacks are committed by Blacks. According to data in a recent issue of Bloomberg Businessweek, it is not just young Blacks who should have an issue with their current situation.  Black workers still make less than Whites with the same degree (Bloomberg Businessweek, September 19, 2016, pg. 54).  Lastly, there is still a generational issue.  Millennials have such disdain for both candidates that many plan to boycott this election, while older American seem to be flocking to the polls.  But even then there is a void.  More people seem to be voting against a candidate, than in support of one. 

It would be easy for me to just turn our nation’s plight over to the Lord and pray for an end to the discord but that is not enough.  I must also first confess my own bias against certain groups or individuals.  I must also learn to listen more.  I need to seek out those who are different, or who might be hurting.  It is only when we seek to understand each other that we can have any hope of working together.  I am only one, but if change is to happen it has to start with me.  I sincerely hope that you will join me in this effort.  I do not think we have lost our way as a nation.  The truth is that we have different segments of society that each feel they know the way, but the paths are very different.

 

Please commit yourself to joining me in prayers for:

Our nation,

Our leaders,

Those who are oppressed,

And the church, that we might be Jesus in the world.

Reflections on the Election Dilemma

I cast my vote in the presidential election last week.  I choose to vote early for a couple of reasons.  One, it was a matter of convenience.  I could vote at our city hall which I pass by all the time.  My regular polling place is a bit out of the way for me.   Also based on my experience in the last few national elections, I anticipated a line on November 8^th.  The major factor was I had reviewed the candidates and issues and made my decision.  In the end casting my ballot was easy.  There was no wait and I was in and out in ten minutes.  There were probably a half dozen other people voting at the same time.  Most of them were older adults.  Not surprising because it was mid-day and most of the population is working or busy doing other things.

From what I can gather, this election is going to be decided by citizens over the age of forty.  Part of the reason is that millennials for the most part are boycotting this election.  Like much of the population they are not enamored with either candidate.  A more noteworthy reason is many young adults supported Barry Sanders and lost interest once he was eliminated.  As a generational group millennials only get passionate about causes they believe in.  They really are not buying what either of the main party candidates stands for.  In the previous two presidential elections they passionately supported Barrack Obama, and played a major role in getting him elected.  I sense even some older adults feel a disdain toward both major candidates.  Unfortunately, many people are voting more against the other candidates than for the one the choosing.  Even this late in the process I hear a number of people who are on the fence in terms of how they are going to vote.

The truth is, unless something unprecedented takes place either Hillary Clinton or Donald Trump is going to move into the Oval Office come January.  That makes them a central figure in the future of the free world.  Deciding who to vote for should come down to who we believe would best represent our nation on a global level.  We are not going to change the cultural climate or solve our nation’s problems by electing a president.  With that in mind I would encourage you to vote.  I have made my decision; I would call on you to do the same.  In the process we might even send a message to the younger generation.  Boycotting an election is not going to solve our problems.  We are a democracy and our future depends on everyone sharing in the process.

Engaging the Millennial Culture

I was attending a conference in Austin, Texas a few weeks back.  My scheduled required me to be back in Dallas, so I left the conference at the end of the second day.  My intent was to catch a quick fast food dinner and then make the three hour trip home.  I had seen a number of restaurants in the morning on my way to the meeting, and was pleasantly surprised to see a Rosa’s Café.  When it come short-order Mexican food you cannot top Rosa’s.  They also make their own tortillas always served fresh and warm. 

The restaurant was filled with families and relatively busy.  After retrieving my food I set off in search of a table.  I spotted one toward the back and sat down.  I had my computer with me and figured I could get some work done. Before I could get settled in I noticed a young man sitting by himself at an adjacent table.  The tip off was he smiled and asked how I was doing.  Opportunity!  “Mind if I join you,” I asked.  He pointed to an empty chair but apologized that he was about to head off to an appointment. 

He reported that he had recently moved to Austin to be close to his sister.  He had lived in California but both his parents had died within the last two years and there was no other family there.  He was working at a Best Buy but was hoping to start school in fall.  When I inquired what he wanted to study he said he was a musician and wanted to learn production.  He was living on his own and enjoying the music scene in Austin.   He was hoping to make connections in school that could lead to a gig with a band.  Eventually he asked what I did, and seemed a little surprised when I told him my passion was millennials and helping churches understand and connect with them.  “I’ve never been real religious,” he noted.  “I have always gotten the impression that the church people felt they had all the answers and life is more complicated than that.”  I told him I understood but to not sell the church short.  “There are churches that are seeker friendly,” I noted.  “They really encourage discussion when it comes to issues,” I continued.    

That is the way the conversation ended.  He had his agenda and in the end I had mine.  But I sensed that he was a sincere young man who was struggling not just with life issues but with the death of his parents.  The best I could hope for was that he sensed there was at least one older adult who was concerned about him.  I did give him my card.  Maybe he will call me, but probably not.  Either way I hope he began to see that someone who called themselves “Christian” was concerned about him. 

There are probably many young adults who pass through your life on a regular basis who need to hear the same message.  I recently read an article on connecting the great commission with contemporary culture.  The author was Trevin Wax of Lifeway Christian Resources.  Trevin Wax identified three steps that need to be taken to effectively reach members of our contemporary culture.  The first of those is to seek to understand the people and the culture.  Nothing is accomplished if we observe and make comments from afar.  Before we can effectively impact the millennial culture we need to learn to seek,learn and understand that culture.  That requires stepping outside our comfort zone but I sincerely believe that is what we are called to go.  The future of the church as we know it hinges on our willingness to do that.

A Sticky Wicket

Watermark Church in Dallas has been in the news lately.  It is not the first time.  The Dallas Morning News annually does a feature on the best places to work in DFW.  The mega church, which boasts over ten thousand members, annually makes the list.  They have a prominent location on the LBJ freeway and their campus features a high-rise office building.  Now the church is being cast in a negative light.  One of their former members has shared his experience of being in effect being kicked out of the church. 

Jason Thomas had been a member of the church for years and was even a small group leader.  Jason Thomas is also gay, but for years that was not a problem.  Then out of the blue Jason got a letter informing him that the church was revoking his membership.  They state the church would continue to pray for him and he was always welcome to attend, but he was no longer considered a member.  Jason has since found a new church where he is welcome but his experience at Watermark has in his word left him, “deeply wounded.” Jason’s story tells me that it is not just traditional churches that struggle with the gay/lesbian issue. 

Watermark was aware of Jason’s sexual orientation.  Members of Watermark are required to sign a form indicating they will submit to the churches elders regarding their behavior.  Watermark’s response was for him to repent and undergo “conversion therapy” design to change a person’s sexual orientation.  Psychologist and counselors have long maintained that such therapy is pointless and even harmful.  The reality is that some folks were created gay. 

I am sure there are two-sides to this story.  I know a good number of people who attend Watermark Church and all of them are happy.  They always talk about the sense of community and the way they feel spiritually fed.  They also all are happily married to a member of the opposite sex, living a traditional lifestyle.  Therein lies the dilemma; how do we minister to those whose lifestyle runs counter to the way we feel the Bible commands?   It is a “sticky wicket.”

I truly believe it is always best to love and keep the door open.  I sincerely believe that is what Jesus calls us to do.  We continue to minister to those who struggle with addiction, or those who gossip and even slander others.  Why do we single out those who are gay or lesbians?  I believe we need to join them in exploring the scriptures seeking God’s will and desire for each of us.  Only then can we both celebrate the grace which we have in Christ.

Living in Exile

I have a deep appreciation for the Old Testament stories.  Part of that passion comes from sitting at the feet of Dr. Harry Wendt as I went through the Crossways training program.  In my mind it is difficult to have an appreciation for the New Testament until you have journeyed through the story of God’s people prior to the birth of the Christ Child.  I still stand in awe of the fact that so many remained faithful to God when all they had was a promise.  The characters in Luke’s Gospel like, Zachariah and Elizabeth, along with Simeon and Anna come to mind. 

When it comes to a respect for an Old Testament patriarch, I have always been drawn to Daniel.  While the Book of Daniel falls into the section of the Bible called The Prophets, there was so much more to Daniel’s story.  During the difficult time when the most talented and gifted of the Israelites, including Daniel, were taken into exile by the Babylonians, he stood strong as a believer in The Living God.  He not only became a leader among his people but won the respect of the Babylonian authorities, including King Nebuchadnezzar.

I thought of Daniel and the rest of the exiles this morning as I read a chapter in the book Called: The Crisis and Promise of Following Jesus Today by Mark Labberton.  The chapter was titled Relocating.  The point being that because of the cultural shift those of us who cling to biblical standards and principles might feel like we are dwelling in a foreign land.  Mark Labberton writes;

“Living our call in exile involves adjusting to very different circumstances and reading the signals of our environment and culture differently.  It means choosing to give ourselves to those around us with fewer and different expectations, not as settlers but as guests and visitors.  We don’t whine about the world being the world.  Instead we are called to love out of the integrity of our lives, without making our love dependent on it changing.”  (Called, Mark Labberton, Intervarsity Press, page 55)

Being an exile requires that I spend less time being comfortable inside the Body of Christ, and more time getting to know my neighbor.  It means investing less money and energy on buildings and more on people outside the faith.  For those of us who have grown up in the church and who have become attached to that community it is tough pill to swallow.  Bitter as the taste is, the reality is that if we do not change our focus from being the people of God inside the church, to being the disciples to the world that Jesus called us to be the church will continue to be a non-factor.   Without a change in perspective many current worship communities will cease to exist in twenty years.  For me that is an even more difficult pill to swallow.  Pass the Torch.

Senior Coffee: A Blessing or a Curse

Being a senior citizen has its privileges.  I was recently in one of my favorite Mexican Restaurants, Rosa’s Café, and got an automatic senior 10% discount without even asking.  The chicken enchiladas tasted even better and in my mind they have the best tortillas.  Another benefit is senior coffee at McDonald’s.  The cost of a senior cup of joe at Mickey D’s is never more than 75 cents and usually around 59 cents.  What a deal!

But when I walked into almost any McDonald’s in the morning I realize the senior coffee can be both a blessing and a curse.  The blessing is cheap coffee that rivals Starbucks.  The curse is cheap coffee that attracts senior citizens who want to sit around and talk about how bad things are.  Now I am sure they do talk about other things, but based on a highly random survey I would say the currently favored topics are: that the country is going to hell and how a certain Republican presidential candidate could turn things around.  “Build the wall and let us live the rest of our lives in peace and quiet,” I recently heard one man state.

Unfortunately many churches have the same issue; free, or maybe freewill offering, coffee and the opportunity to stand around and talk about how nobody comes to visit us anymore.  Now I am not suggesting we do away with coffee on Sunday morning.  Honestly, I would be one of the first to complain, and I feel the same way about the donuts.  However, we do need to move beyond the coffee pot and extend our conversation to people who do not always share our perspective.  

I just finished a new book by Kara Powell, a professor at Fuller Seminary and author of Sticky Faith.  In this book, Growing Young, Kara Powel and some of her colleagues offer some very practical insights into how even established churches came become more open and friendly toward teens and young adults.  The solutions is simple, invest time getting to know them.  When we invest ourselves in the lives of others we open up the opportunity for there to be a long-term relationship.

For decades the church has had the reputation of not being a place where you can discuss issues.  Questions are met with the same responses; “the Bible says…” or “we don’t do those kinds of things around here.”  End of discussion!  If that is to change we must learn to move away from our coffee clusters and out into the world.  Spend time in the youth room or get to know some of the few young adults who might actually attend your church.  Listen and do not immediately give the pat answer.  

Remember, when Nicodemus approached Jesus our Lord did not respond, “I know what you stand for so we cannot even have this conversation.”  No, he engaged an inquisitive Nicodemus in a conversation that ultimately changed his life.  Why cannot we do the same?

A Just Say No Election

Among millennials, mainline churches are often known more for what they are against than what they are.  Evangelical Christians are viewed as being anti same sex marriage and against cohabitation before marriage.  While both of the might run counter to God's plan from our perspective, it is not helpful to have that reputation.  As a result, we are viewed as being intolerant and out of touch with reality. 

Now a new poll from Pew Research seems to indicate that the American electorate might be viewed in the same way.  In the upcoming election it appears that more people are voting against a candidate, than they are for one. Those polled were asked the question, “in your words, what is the main reason you support _____?”  In the case of both the Republican and Democratic candidate the top response was “He is not Clinton” (33%) and “She is not Trump” (32%). For Donald Trump supporters the other top responses were “He is an outsider/will bring change” (27%) and “His issues/policy positions (26%).   For Clinton supporters the next favored responses were “Experience/get things done (32%) and “Her issues/policy positions (22%).

In my mind, it is a sad commentary that the church is viewed in such a negative way.  Jesus calls us to be his hands and feet.  We are to offer his grace to a lost and broken world.  Jesus was passionate in his love for the lost and broken.  He orders us to do the same.  We will have an opportunity to teach, instruct and guide once we have established a relationship.

In the case of our country, I would hope as voters we would seek to examine the candidates and vote for the one who comes closest to our desires.  That is a matter of conscience.  Beyond that we need to stop thinking and speaking negatively.  Even now, we are commanded to pray for and support those who are in authority (1 Timothy 2:2).  Once the election is history, we are called to “pray for those in authority.”  In doing so we are to bear testimony to the hope that we have in Christ Jesus.

Generations

Our sons are big Chicago Cub fans and in their minds this is “the next year” they have longed for.  So recently when the Cubs were playing the Houston Astros, it was a given that they would be there. They invited me to tag along, and Peter’s three boys rounded out the crew.  Being on the road with my grandsons in the back of the minivan made it a memorable trip  Along the way we enjoyed a day on the beach at Galveston Island and watched three ball games, including two Cub wins. 

We also had a unique encounter on Saturday morning.  I got down to breakfast ahead of the family.  Needing my quiet time, I had planned it that way.  It worked out well because there were few people in the dining area. I found a table and looked across to see two women, I would guessed them to have been in their sixties.  They were having breakfast and engaged in conversation. 

In almost perfect timing, Peter and our youngest grandson, Jonathan, joined me just as I wrapped up my devotional time.  After they had gotten their food, we engaged in a discussion regarding the game from the previous evening and other baseball news.  I was oblivious to the fact that we were being observed.  When the women concluded their meal one of them approached our table.  “Can I take your picture?” she asked.  Peter explained that some pieces of the puzzle were missing since his other sons, Andrew and Caleb, were not there.  “That’s okay,” she responded.  “We have three generation here and I enjoy taking pictures of that.” 

While I do not go around taking pictures of stangers, I do enjoy watching cross-generational family encounters.  Even more, I enjoy participating in them.  Any time I can spend with my grandsons is special.  From their reactions, I sense it is special for them as well.  It is during such times that stories are shared and memories are made.  It is also when we have the best opportunity to pass on our values and faith heritage.

I pray you will take the opportunities as well.  Pass the torch!

Encounter With the Cat Girl

I had an appointment yesterday with two of my friends to talk about their ministry to millennials.  Wil and Heather live in Austin Ranch, an apartment community north of Dallas that is known as a “millennial enclave.”  I am Starbucks regular but they suggested meeting at a local coffee shop adjacent to the development. To say that the crowd was eclectic might be the ultimate understatement.  I could have predicted that based on my initial encounter.  I got in line to order my coffee and found myself standing behind a young girl wearing cat ears.  Okay, I thought to myself, but then I noticed she had a tail.  Needless to say my curiosity was aroused .  You can add the fact that she was dressed in black with the exception of the white ears that protruded from the top of her head. 

After being served I took a seat at a table.  Soon I found the “Cat Girl” sitting adjacent to me.   I got out my computer to prepare for our meeting when I got a text from my friends saying they were running a little late.  “Opportunity,” I thought.  The girl had ordered food so I knew she was going to be there a while.  I got up to grab a napkin, and my way back I complemented he on her unique outfit.  She smiled and stated that she and a friend liked cats.  The the outfit was pretty much standard for them.  “I work as a waitress, but I don’t wear this when I am working,” she continued.  Assuming her to be in her early twenties, I inquired where she had gone to high school. “I am working to finish my GED,” she responded.  “Eventually I want to go to art school.”  By this time my friends had arrived, so I thank her for the conversation.  “It was nice talking to you,” she replied.

It was brief conversation, and it is doubtful we will ever cross paths again, but I hope I left an impression.  It would have been easy to label her as “weird” and stayed at a distance, but I was genuinely interested in her.  In the process I hope she began to realize that some older adults care about her and want to get to know her. That is the effort it is going to take to change the gap that has occurred between generations.   I would encourage you to do the same. 

It is easy to label someone who has body piercing, or covered with tattoos as being weird.  In God's eyes their is a uniqueness and brokenness in each of us.In this case it meant wearing a tail. How will they know they are loved and accepted without us acknowledging them?  Maybe in the process they will begin to see Jesus through us.

The Future of Youth Ministry

In my last blog I wrote about the cultural shift that has taken place in our country.  Some behaviors, cohabitation and homosexuality have become acceptable.  The millennial generation is leading the cultural revolution.  Over 60% of millennials not only view cohabitation as acceptable but advantageous. They have a similar perspective on the Gay-Lesbian issue.  As I noted, I still view such behavior as being contrary to God’s desire for his people.  I also believe a majority of my peers share that opinion.  As stated in the blog entry, I still maintain the local church needs to stand with parents in equipping young people to make choices that run according to God’s plan.  That begins by not only teaching young people God’s Word but applying it.  It also means standing with them as they grapple with the application of God’s Word in their life.

 

As I pointed out at the close of that article, I still view a strong youth, college and young adult ministry .  Trained youth and education professionals can play a vital role in that process.  I aone of the key components ism a member of the Lutheran Church Missouri Synod (LCMS) and within our denomination that role in many cases in filled by directors of Christian education (DCE).  DCE’s and others who fill such positions are not “Pied Pipers” but trained professionals who equip others to join them in their ministry. 

I am blessed to be member of the Texas District of the LCMS.  Texas has more trained DCE’s than any other district.  Our local DFW-DCE Cluster has over twenty active members.  A major factor in the strong DCE presence in Texas is that Concordia University of Texas trains more DCE’s than any other school in the Concordia University System.  We also are blessed to have a District President who is strongly supportive of Christian education and youth ministry. 

While I feel fortunate to be in such a fertile area when it comes to DCE and youth ministry, I have a concern for the church at large.  DCE’s are rostered by our church body as Commissioned Ministers but I fear an effort to downplay that office of the ministry.  I sense a desire to centralize training so that all workers are trained at the seminary.  Men are trained to be pastors and women are trained to be deaconess. 

I most certainly do not want to downplay the role of the parish pastor; lest I offend my two sons both of whom are ordained.  The reality is that most pastors are generalist.  Even those who have a passion for youth ministry usually have to shoulder other responsibilities.  While many DCE’s are generalist, a good number are children or youth ministry specialist.  In such cases, their focus is mentoring young people in the faith and equipping others to do the same. 

Equipping and supporting DCE’s and those who play similar roles is an important component in passing the torch to the next generation. 

Shacking Up or Cohabitation?

According to Webster, shacking up is to live together as spouses without being married.  The term carries a lot of negative connotation; “Did you hear who is shacking up?”  As Christians we take a negative view of such behavior because we view it as a violation of God’s desire for his people.  The marriage relationship is sacred, and a couple should be legally married prior to living together

In an attempt to soften the offense, the term now used to define living together outside of marriage is “cohabitation.”  If a recent study done by Pew Research is on target it is working.  Cohabitation has become politically correct while couching a behavior that is of itself morally wrong.  In our contemporary culture, cohabitation is not only seen as acceptable but viewed as a good idea, and it is not just a matter of convenience or saving money.  The top reason given for cohabitation was "testing compatibility." 

We can shake our heads and comment that it is just another sign that our moral fabric is gradually being torn to shreds.  In actually it does not change who we are, or even more important who God is.  As God’s people we respect the holy estate of marriage. But we recognize that even those who live in sin fall under God’s grace.  In my humble opinion the answer is found in God’s word.  We not only need to be into God’s word on a daily basis, but we need to encourage others to do so as well.  This is especially the case with teens and young adults.  It is not enough to expect the instruction that they received on the Sixth Commandment to have taken root.

That is why young and young adult ministry should be a vital component.  That is especially the case with college age young adults.  The typical campus environment is fertile ground for a young Christian to find their values called into question.  Another reality is that most traditional campus ministries do not appeal to millennials.  The link between God’s desire for them and the reality of their situation should be their support system back home.  That contact across the miles is vital, and in the world of social media and facetime it is a lot easier.  We just need to be intentional in our effort.

WHAT KIND OF A LIGHT ARE WE?

There is no question the church does not the cultural influence it once held.  If I had any doubt, a recent report from Pew Research confirmed it.  I would have expected millennials to view the church as a non-factor when it comes to social issues. The unfortunate reality is over half of practicing Christians believe the church has lost its influence as well.  In the minds of many we have become salt that has lost its flavor (Matthew 5:13-14).

If you are of the opinion that the church should not be a voice when it comes to social issues you need to spend some time reading Matthew 5-7.  Jesus longest discourse contains numerous references to social issues.  Adultery, divorce, business ethics and care for the homeless and needy are all covered.  After the Beatitudes, which serve as a preface, Jesus calls his disciples to be the “light to the world”

Let there be little doubt, the world knows where the church stands on social issues.  We are against abortion and value life in all forms.  We deplore violence and are in opposition to racism in all forms.  Those opinions are fortified as stand around the coffee pot on Sunday morning, as we reflect on how our country sinks further into moral decline.  The sentiments are further reinforced as we conservative voices on radio talk shows and via social media. I am moved to ask; what kind of light are we?

Millennials have gotten the message.  They know what we stand against, and as a result we are known more for what we are against than for what we stand for.  I fear we have become the flavor-less salt Jesus warned about.  I am left to wonder if we are the “resounding bell and clanging cymbal” Paul warned about in 1 Corinthians 13.  I have to ask, where is the love that Paul reflects on in the rest of that chapter? “Love is patient and kind.  It does not envy or boast.  It is not proud.” (1 Corinthians 13:5).  If we read further we read that love does not dishonor others and keeps no record of wrong.  If we need an example of that love we need look no further than Jesus, who almost seemed drawn to those whose lifestyle ran counter to the law.  I fear we are viewed more as the Pharisees of biblical times, than as Jesus. 

That makes me sad, but it also challenges me to do what I can to change the perception. 

Overcoming The Great Divide

We are a divided country.  I cannot recall a time since the tumultuous sixties when our opinions on the issues are more varied.  Should we build a wall along the border and deport undocumented immigrants?  Should we allow people to use the bathroom of their choice?  Is the “Black Lives Matter” on target, meaning racism still exists in our country?    

There is little doubt that much of the division is rooted in the generation gap.  As a rule, older adults tend to be more conservative and young adults more liberal, but now it is not that simple.  Even among Millennials there tends to be some difference of opinion when it comes to topics like immigration and racism.  White Millennials tend to be less passionate about both issues.  One thing  Millennials hold in common is a low opinion of Donald Trump and most view him as a racist (73%). Beyond that topic things become a little unclear. 

When it comes to the deportation of undocumented immigrants, half of White Millennials (51%) are in favor.  We would expect Hispanic Millennials (18%) to stand against deportation, but Asians (25%) and Blacks (32%) also believe undocumented immigrants should not be deported.  On the issue of racism, Black Millennials have the strongest opinion with 80% agreeing with the “Black Lives Matter” movement.  While other Millennials might share that view, White Millennials are almost split with 54% agreeing it is an issue.  The reality is that even within a generational group we are a country that is very conflicted. 

I recently attended the City of Dallas sponsored vigil for the murdered police officers.  Thousands of people were there and it was a very diverse crowd.  All generations and races were present, and while the speakers provided an obvious Christian perspective other faiths were represented.  I saw a couple of Buddhist monks and at one point a group of Sheik men stood next to me.  Lesson learned: when we stand together and listen to each other we are taking steps toward breaking down the walls that divide us. 

The same theme applies to bridging the divide between older and young adults.  If we, as a Christian community, hope to reach the Millennial generation with the Gospel it must begin by listening to them and seeking to understand them.

Why Can’t We Just Get Along?

I grew up on the eastside of the Detroit.  During my elementary school years we lived close to the city limits but that all changed when the board of education bought all the houses on our block to expand the local school.  Most of our neighbors moved to the suburbs, but my parents made the decision to move in closer to the central city.  I am convinced that was a conscious decision on their part.  When most White people were preparing to flee the city, my parents reinvested in the city.  They lived in that house on Bedford for over forty years.  They remained there through the Riots of 67 and the countless ethnic changes and the economic decline.  Few of the original neighbors were left when my parent's declining health forced them to sell the house and move to a senior community.

How did my parents survive living in that neighborhood through all those transitions?  I would credit that on my dad and his passionate desire to get along with all people.  I can still picture my dad sitting on the front porch greeting anyone who would pass by.  The color of the skin or the clothes they wore made no difference.  He enjoyed talking with anyone about anything.  As a result, as my parent’s health declined their neighbors embraced and took care of them.  I honestly never worried about my parent’s safety in spite of the fact that they lived in a neighborhood where crime was an issue. 

I thought of my dad and his, “why can’t we all just get along attitude,” this weekend in the wake of the murder of five policemen here in Dallas.  Let me also say that Dallas is wonderful city, and for the tensions between police and the minority communities are low.  The downtown Dallas is vibrant and alive and I have always considered it safe.  Yet even in the midst of even a healthy community hatred can develop.  Hatred when it is allowed to fester can lead to violence. 

I am not saying that we could have prevented Micah Johnson from going on a shooting rampaged that targeted police officers.  I do believe that treating all people we meet with respect can make a difference.  Whether they live in a gated community in North Dallas or under a bridge downtown, each person is a unique child of God.  Only when we strive to love, respect and “Be Jesus” in the lives of the people we meet,” will we begin to see a change.  

Accept and Move On

We recently celebrated the anniversary of the birth of our great country.  The Fourth of July always provides time to reflect on our nation’s heritage and celebrate the freedom that we have.  It is also a time for reflection and perhaps to consider our present situation.  In light of the present political climate and what is perceived by many as a shift away from the values we cherish as Christian. I have also heard a lot of fear about the future of our nation. 

While I share some of the concerns, especially when it comes to the presumptive candidates to be our next leader, I also have to consider what it means to be a disciple of Jesus at such a time as this.  While I might struggle with the positions of our president, both current and future, I also need to consider the statutes on which our country was founded.  We have always been a nation built on freedom and diversity.  That comes with being a country made up of immigrants who bring various backgrounds, customs and even religious beliefs.  In this present time we might also add sexual values and orientation to the list of things that make us different as a population. 

I would like to propose that we might want to revive the WWJD campaign.  As Jesus disciples I believe we need to ponder on what would Jesus do given our circumstances?  In the process we might even discover some parallels.  Jesus lived in a political climate that reflected values that were different from what he had been taught.  He also taught and lived a lifestyle that ran counter to what the traditional Jewish leaders expected.  What does this mean?

What other people say and do does not affect who I am.  We are called to be in the world but not of the world.

We cannot stop teaching and living out what we believe are God’s desires for his creation. 

We need to love the broken and lost.  Without a relationship with them, they will never have the opportunity to see Jesus in us.

I believe we need to accept the realities of our present culture and move on in attempting to reach them with the Good News of the gospel.  

Lessons Learned from Roy Gummerson and Mr. Foreman

Roy Gummerson is a name that has stayed with me.  He was my boss during the summer of 1967.  I was taking summer classes at Concordia Teachers College (Now Concordia University Chicago) and I needed a job for the summer.  Roy Gummerson was the superintendent at the River Forest Tennis Club.  I was hired by him to be head groundskeeper each weekday afternoon.  Roy was used to working with teens.  His regular job was a teacher and track coach at Oak Park – River Forest High School.   He was a great mentor, and often shared wisdom and insights.  He was also encouraging, but also quick to call me on the carpet if he caught a slip up.  I know he was often frustrated with me because I did not possess the “attention to detail” he expected. 

In contrast I had a supervisor the next summer who could not relate to me or my coworker.  During that summer I worked on a gas pipeline in Northern Michigan.  Our actual supervisor was based at the home office in Detroit, but on site we reported daily to the local foreman.  Fortunately, once we got our assignments we were on our own the rest of the day.   Unlike Roy Gummerson, I do not remember his name; probably by choice.    The foreman had no use for college students with different values, and work ethics.  While Roy Gummerson mentored, “Mr. Foreman” lectured.  Each the message was the same; “Kids are lazy, have no respect for their elders and sense of right or wrong.”  It was a very tumultuous time.  The assassination of Martin Luther King and Robert Kennedy, both admired my most young people, were fresh in our minds and the tensions were between the generations were high.  It all came to a head at the Democratic Convention in Chicago where young people expressed their frustrations and the police responded with tear gas and nightsticks.  And each morning we were reminded of how the world was “going to hell in a hand basket” (First time I heard that expression).

The contrasting styles of Roy Gummerson and “Mr. Foreman” are worth considering as we contemplate relating to and working with Millennials.  We have a choice.  We can mentor or lecture. We can see them as colleagues or adversaries.  There is a reason I still remember Roy Gummerson’s name.  He respected me, and he also taught me a lot that summer. As for “Mr. Foreman,” I learned a lesson from him too: avoid people who do not respect you and what you have offer.   How will you be remembered by the young people in your life?

Mr. Hockey did not Need to Tell us He was the Greatest

We lost one of my childhood heroes last week.  Gordie Howe died at age eighty-eight.  His body was laid in state in the Joe Louis Arena in Detroit, the city where he is still adored.  Ironic that while most of the attention was on the passing of Muhammad Ali, the death of the hockey icon was almost an afterthought.  I noticed.  To be honest, I was never a big fan of Muhammad Ali, but Gordy Howe was my idol as boy.  In my mind those were the glory days of hockey.  There were only six teams; The Canadians, Maple Leafs, Rangers, Bruins, Black Hawks and The Detroit Red Wings.  The rivalries were fierce, the quality of play high.  No helmets or goalie masks.  Terry Sawchuk was the Detroit goalie.  If he lost a tooth or needed stitches, he skated to the bench where he got patched up and then skated back in place.  When you talk about toughness, hockey players in the “golden age” of the sport might be at the top of the list.

Cassius Clay took the sporting world by storm, primarily because he was so good a promoting himself.  I do not recall another athlete ever being audacious enough to state “I am the greatest” when their career had barely started.  It always bothered me that he thumbed his nose at the government and avoided the draft.  It also troubled me that he converted to Islam and became so radically outspoken on the racial issue, the exact opposite of Martin Luther King.  True, he settled down later in life, especially after he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease.  Prior to that, his personal life was a mess; numerous marriages and many public affairs.  Not someone I want to emulate or who I would point to as a role model for kids.

Gordie Howe might have been the antithesis.  He continued to play professional hockey into his fifties, playing on the same team as his sons.  He was only married to one woman and I do not recall any negative rumors circulating regarding “Mr. Hockey.”  Until his wife died in 2009, they lived, and were very involved in the Detroit community.  He was also a devote Catholic and his funeral was held in one on of the great cathedrals in the Motor City.  I actually met Gordie Howe once.  He was the featured speaker at a men’s sports banquet at our church.  My dad and I arrived early in order to get a good seat and were surprised to see Mr. Hockey casually standing around talking with the kids.  As I recall he was very friendly and gracious, and almost blended in with the crowd. 

It has always troubled me when we put people with questionable lifestyle on a pedestal.  One of the key traits I look for is a sense of Christian values and some semblance of a faith life.  You learn more about a person by observing them away from the spotlight. I definitely have little use for someone who wants to tell me how great they are, or what they have done for me lately.   Mr. Hockey never needed to tell people he was the greatest.

A Lesson Inside the Ropes

I spent the Memorial Day Weekend serving as a volunteer marshal at the Dean and Deluca Invitational Golf Tournament.  This was the seventh time that I got to work the annual event held at the Colonial Country Club in Fort Worth.  To people who have watched golf on television, the marshals are the individuals who hold up the quiet signs around the green.  From experience I can tell you there is so much more to it than that.  I am one to sixteen marshals assigned to the 17th hole.  We have responsibility from the landing area on the 17^th hole through the 18^th tee box.  In addition to keeping the gallery quiet, we spot drives and locate errant shots. Our crew also holds the signal paddle on the 18^th tee, letting the marshals in the landing area know where the ball is headed.   We also have responsibility for getting the golfers from the 17^th to the 18^th hole.  We work in teams of two and rotate regularly, providing a lot of variety to the experience.

For the most part, I totally enjoy my work as a marshal.  However, the hours can be long and often our schedule is controlled by the weather.  Example: Because of a delay on Friday, we were not done until sunset and it was almost 10:30 PM when I got home.  Because of our rotating schedule I needed to be back on duty by 7:00 AM Saturday morning.  On the positive side: I do get to view the game inside the ropes and during my off-duty time watch some great golf. 

There is one major frustration, however.  You might think it is the rowdy fans who struggle with self-control after drinking beer and being in the sun all day, but I can understand that. For the most part the fans are courteous and respectful toward the golfers.  The problem comes with one of the PGA’s rules.  The sanctioning body has a strict No pictures – No video policy.  As the golfers approach the green we are required to remind the gallery that they are to have their cell phones on silent and to not be taking pictures.  The annoying thing is people still have their phones up snapping away.  When the local hero and eventual winner, Jordan Spieth, was on the green I counted at least ten people with their cell phone out taking pictures.  You might think, it is kids who are trying to get away with something but you would be wrong.  Almost all of them are adults over forty, and in the case of Jordan Spieth, female.  When called out, most people admit they know the rule, but tell me the picture is for themselves and not to sell or even post online.  I remind them that a rule is still a rule and they need to delete an picture they have taken. 

I have to wonder, what kind of a message are we sending when we feel the rules are only there for other people, and we are the exception?  I hear a lot of older adults talk about how self-absorbed Millennials are, but I think I know where it comes from.  The Baby Boomer generation has not given them a good example to follow.  If it is to change it needs to start with me and you. It might be the "no photo policy" on the golf course or the speed limit on the highway; rules are rules and they are there for all of us.  

Millennials and The Bible

I do not remember when I received my first Bible.   I do recall taking a Bible to Sunday school somewhere around fifth or sixth grade.  One of those Sundays I was asked to read the story for the day directly from the Bible.  It was an awkward experience only because I did not have a lot of self-confidence at that time.  

I received a Revised Standard Version (RSV) of the Bible at the time of my confirmation.  It was a gift from the congregation.  We had a choice,. Most of my classmates chose a prayer book and a few opted for a hymnal.  My parents were adamant that I ask for a Bible.  I did not question it at the time.  Only when I went off to college, still carrying that same Bible, did I realize the value of that gift.  I still have that Bible.  The cover has come off and the pages are tattered, but there is no way I will give it up.  We probably have over two dozen Bibles in our home, but that one is special.

For Christians, the Bible remains not just a sacred book but guide on how to live.  A recent report from the Barna Group seems to indicate that while most Millennials share those perspectives, not all the news is good.  I also view the Bible as the cornerstone on which my faith is built.  Only in the Bible is the story of salvation revealed. Jesus suffered and died for my sins.  He also rose again, conquering death and the devil.  Because of that I can live confidently.  I have the hope of eternal life.  Unfortunately, Most Millennials do not share that perspective.  For them the Bible is just a sacred book filled with lots of good advice.  As of the stories in the Bible, they might be ancient, but probably more myth than reality.

The Barna report indicates that many young adults view the Bible much as they do any other self-help manual.  For them it is like a membership in a health club.  It is a way to improve your lifestyle and make yourself a better person.  That leaves us with the challenge on how to get the Gospel message across to a generation that has been labeled Moralistic Therapeutic Deist. 

I maintain that the only way that can be accomplished is if we live the life of a disciple of Jesus Christ.  Preaching and moralizing does no good.  It can only happen we live as people of hope.  That is what we are called to do. 

The Most Influential Millennials

A few weeks back Time Magazine released their annual issue featuring the one hundred most influential people.  I always try to read the issue cover to cover.  I figure that while there are many I know, but the rest I probably ought to at least be aware of.  This time around I was amazed at the number of Millenials who made the list.  Again, there were some I knew and respected, golfer Jordan Spieth for example.  There were others, like ultimate fighter Ronda Rousey, who I am aware of but try to ignore.  Singer Adele was on the list.  I have been told by Millennials that I need to listen to her because is not only is she easy to listen to but a genuinely nice person and good role model. 

Mark Zuckerberg and his wife, Priscilla Chan, made the list.  Mark Zuckerberg, probably more than anyone else, hastened the advance of social media when he started Facebook.  While I know of him, I was not aware of the role his wife plays.  Priscilla Chen is evidently a renowned pediatrician who has devoted her life to the health and well-being of children.  Together, Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan have established the Chan Zuckerberg Initiative to take on challenges like improving education, curing disease and building strong communities.  Reportedly they have committed 99% of their sizable wealth to charitable causes.  They were both born in 1984, making them Millennials who are making a difference. 

Born in January of 1980, Lin-Manuel Miranda barely qualifies as a Millennial, but I would put him high on the list of influential people.  He has got young people excited about two things they typically are not passionate about; history and theater.  Lin-Manuel Miranda is the force behind the hit Broadway musical Hamilton.  He conceived, wrote and stars in the show, which is based on the life of Alexander Hamilton.  From a historical perspective, Hamilton was one of our nation’s founding fathers and the first Secretary of the Treasury.  We need more people like Lin-Manuel Miranda to provide Millennials and those who follow them with a historical perspective.

There is much that can be learned on multiple levels from the Millennial Generation.  I think all of us need to consider what we can learn from the young adults who live and work among us.

WHAT CAN WE LEARN FROM RED LOBSTER?

I am an admitted seafood lover.  My favorite is grilled rainbow trout but I also enjoy the salmon I make on the grill (a little olive oil and lemon pepper, thank you!).   When we were in San Antonio over the weekend I chose Landry’s Seafood over Saltgrass Steakhouse.  In spite of my fishy passion, I cannot recall the last time I ate at a Red Lobster.  Evidently I am missing something.  Overnight Red Lobster has become the number one restaurant favored by Millennials.

Yes, you read that correctly.  The 23-34 crowd is flocking to the seafood chain.  Part of the trend can be traced to Beyonce.  I am not a fan (cannot say I would recognize one of her songs), but evidently Millennials are.  Seem Beyonce said the magic words, Red Lobster, in her song Formation.  Instantly Red Lobster became cool.  The seafood chain has also recently upgraded their menu to include “more substantial” dishes and locally sourced food, both desired by Millennials.  Red Lobster has also renovated locations to include communal tables that appeal to Millennials’ social mindset.  A couple of years ago Red Lobster was barely visible on the Millennial preference list.  Now they are on top.

If Red Lobster can turn things around, why can’t the church?  Like the Red Lobster of past years, the church barely appears on the radar for most young adults.  We are not a place most of them choose to visit with any frequency.  Things turned around when one person dropped their name.  I seriously doubt Beyonce intended to start a trend, but she did.  That is the power of the spoken word.  While none of us probably have influence of a “pop star,” we do have potential to have an impact.  Our words and our actions can speak volumes.  In other words we need to spend more time engaging in conversation with Millennials.  Don’t preach.  Get to know them and their world.  Show them you care.

Another thing Red Lobster did was change their menu.   They identified what Millennials wanted and gave it to them.  In my mind there is no more wholesome food than the Gospel.  In other words we need to do a better job of sharing the “Good News” and less time condemning their sins.  Our message of compassion and hope for the lost must be spoken loud and clear.

Lastly, Red Lobster altered their environment just slightly to make Millennials more comfortable.  Again, who should be better at providing a “communal table” than the church?  It starts with the sacrament, but needs to continue by providing a sense of community where issues can be discussed in a non-confrontational or judgmental manner. 

If Red Lobster can turn things around, why can’t we do it?

The Topic People Do Not Want to Talk About

Historically, religion and politics are the two things people do not want to talk about.  Considering our current political season I might question the later of those two topics.  It seems like many people want to converse on the candidates, although experience tells me it is out of concern and maybe even frustration.  If the current data from Pew Research is correct, religion might be the one topic people really do not want to discuss.   I am left to wonder why that is.  If indeed our relationship with God is so life-changing, why do we not want to talk about it.

I think there are three different approaches when it comes to talking about religion and our personal faith.  Many of us wait until the topic comes up, only then interjecting our faith perspective.  Others casually mention church activities, hoping someone might open the door for us.  The third group I think of as “the Bible thumpers.”  These folks quote a lot of scripture and often talk with disdain about the “sins of this world.”  It might even involve some finger pointing when they deem people need it.

I would like to propose a fourth approach.  Be Jesus, and let your actions do the speaking.  This really is not new.  It was St. Francis of Assisi who stated, “Speak the Gospel, and when necessary use words.”  When we show our compassion and concern for those around us we are truly being Jesus’ disciples.  In the process we might just open the door for a conversation.  That is what our Master did.  Sure he preached, but it was always to his followers or the curious who were there by choice.  When it came to the lost, he responded to their need and then used that opportunity to gently deliver his message. 

If we live as people of compassion and hope, somewhere along the line someone might comment on that.  They might even inquire as to how we are different.  They might even ask about the source of our ability to even respond to crisis with a sense of hope, rather than despair. That open door might be the opportunity to share the message of Jesus Christ.

If some Millennials look with disdain on the church and those who affiliate with it, the only way to change that is to provide them with a different perspective.

History from a Generational Perspective

I wore many hats during my eleven years at Lutheran High School of Dallas.  My primary role was school counselor, but my job description often changed as dictated by need.  As an example; during the first couple of years I coached the junior varsity baseball team, but when the opportunity arose I switched to my first choice, basketball.  Somewhere along the line they needed someone to teach a couple of sections of advanced composition.  As a published author, the head of the English department asked me to fill in.  I soon discover that writing and teaching writing are two different things.  I am happy to report that the English department head and I are still friends and often play golf together.  Part of the conversation usually involves laughing about that endeavor.

I do have one very clear memory from that experience.  As I reflect, it was probably one of my first experiences with the millennial effect.  The assignment was a persuasive essay.  The topic was The Most Significant News Event in the Twentieth Century.  As examples I suggest events surrounding World War II: The bombing of Pearl Harbor or of Hiroshima, the latter of which ushered in the nuclear age.  I also reflected the assassination of President Kennedy from my perspective.  I was shocked when they turned in their assignments.  The most popular topics: The death of Nirvana singer, Kurt Cobain, the death of Diana; Princess of Wales and the AIDS Epidemic.  I sincerely questioned how anyone could consider the drug related death of a rock star with the dropping of a Bomb that not only killed thousands but led to the end of the war in the Pacific.

The incident in that high school writing class came to mind last week as the news of the pop star, Prince, was announced.  While I am hard-pressed to even name a hit song by Prince, to many he was a music icon.  As I watch the human response, I get the impression that members of Generation X most closely identified with Prince, and before him Michael Jackson and Whitney Houston.  The truth is that history, and the people we consider icons, is a matter of perspective.  Brad Keselowski is one of my heroes, but outside of NASCAR fans few people even recognize his name.  Perspective!

With history it is a matter of perspective, but from a spiritual point of view it is a matter of focus.  There is only one hero in God’s story.  He is more than an icon.  He is our Savior.  Jesus ultimately is the one we should be worshipping.  It is also his story that needs to be told, over and over.  Our earthly heroes, whether they are in sports, politics, or the entertainment industry, are merely temporary.  Jesus is eternal, and so is the hope we have in him.  That is the message we need to be passing on to Millennials and all future generations.  There is only one “real” Prince, and he is the “Prince of Peace.”

  

IF WE ARE SO HAPPY WHY DON’T MORE PEOPLE LIKE US

According to a recently released report from Pew Research highly religious people are about 20% happier than those who are not highly religious.   They are also more likely to be very satisfied with their lives than those who are not highly religious.  The positive vibes do not stop there.  Highly religious people are 50% more likely to volunteer and donate to the poor or under-privileged.

 

As a person who personally knows Jesus Christ, it is not hard for me to understand the source of our happiness, joy and compassion.  I try to live each day fearlessly under grace.  I also have the confidence that the struggles, heartbreaks and pain of this world are only temporary.  I have the hope of eternal life.  The joy of walking the earth each day in the light of Jesus love for me allows me face even difficult situations confidently, knowing “all things work together for those who love the Lord and are called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

In spite of the above, Christians have an image problem. Much of the world views us in a negative way.  Millennials as a group see us as being out of step and hypocritical.  We are often known more for what we are against that what we are for.  Still, according to the Pew Research report we are not only a happy, joyful group but one who does a lot of good in the world.  If that is the case; why don't people like us?

I have a theory.  Much of the joy, happiness and even the acts of compassion and kindness take place within the context of the church community.  We are a joyful group, and some of our greatest joy comes from hanging with our brothers and sisters in Christ.  We have fellowship at potlucks and serve on committees together.  We go on mission trips and volunteer for work projects, like Habitat for Humanity.  That’s okay, but I have to wonder if we are keeping our “lights under a bowl.”  (Matthew 5:14)  Is hanging out together what Jesus’ had in mind?

I gained an interesting, and challenging insight, in a sermon I heard recently.  The text was Hebrews 13:7-15.  The verse that really convicted me was Hebrews 13:13.  I think The Message paraphrase says it best.

“So let’s go outside, where Jesus is, action is –

not trying to be privileged insiders, but taking our share in the abuse of Jesus.”

I think we get caught up with the same problem the Peter, James and John when they experienced Jesus’ Transfiguration.   “It’s good to be here.  Let’s set up some tents and camp out.”   But Jesus did not allow them to stay there.  He had ministry to do, and none of that ministry happened within the walls of a temple or synagogue.  He wandered the highways and byways in search of the broken and lost.  He was a messenger of hope in a broken world.

Now he calls us to do the same.  The bottom line is hanging out with our church friends is comfortable and fun, but hopefully they already know Jesus.  Our real ministry needs to happen in the world.  We need to be messengers of compassion and hope to a world that deeply needs Jesus.